Episode 31: How To Co-Parent with a Narcissist with Lindsey Ellison
b"This week my colleague, Lindsey Ellison is joining me to talk all about how to co-parent with a narcissist.\\xa0She is the author of the book, MAGIC Words: How To Get What You Want From a Narcissist. If you have an ex who\\u2019s a narcissist, you've probably read every book out there about communicating with one. And the advice always given is, go no contact. But for those of us who have to actually co-parent with a narcissist, that\\u2019s not an option. So what do you do if you have to continue to have a relationship with someone with whom you\\u2019ve struggled to have a relationship for, like, ever?In this episode, Lindsey and I discuss her step-by-step formula for creating a communication plan and script of empowering magic words that can help neutralize the power struggle that you have when you are co-parenting with a narcissist. She details exactly what to do, how to do it, and why it works. After you listen to this episode (and maybe even grab her book) you\\u2019ll be armed with information you can use to engage with your narcissistic ex with confidence and authenticity.\\nShow Highlights\\n\\nLindsey\\u2019s divorce story, how we\\u2019re divorce twins and when she realized she was married to a narcissist (4:00)\\n\\nWhat drove Lindsey to write a book about narcissism (7:27)\\n\\nNo contact messaging and why it\\u2019s confusing (10:12)\\n\\nAct as though every engagement with your narcissistic ex as if it were a business transaction (11:09)\\n\\nRealizing you are the CEO of your life, the captain of your ship and in charge (12:53)\\n\\nLindsey\\u2019s book and the MAGIC formula for getting what you want from a narcissist (17:45)\\n\\nYou can have guarded compassion and boundaries with empathy (24:04)\\n\\nAssessing their fears and mapping their persona; and why doing so is in service to your children (27:06)\\n\\nThe importance of identifying goals in every engagement you have (28:17)\\n\\nNarcissists and mom issues and how nurturing phrases can help with communication (31:03)\\n\\nProviding your children with the tools to empower them and help them communicate with a narcissistic parent, without labeling the parent as one (to your children) (46:33)\\n\\nBreaking the cycle of narcissism (45:53)\\n\\nLearn More About Lindsey:\\nLindsey Ellison is a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching, Inc. She helps people navigate their divorce or break-up and also helps people break free from narcissistic abuse. Her newest book, MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist, offers a step-by-step formula on how to create a communication plan, and provides a script of empowering \\u201cmagic\\u201d words that can neutralize the power struggle.\\xa0\\nLinks:\\nLindsey on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ThriveWithLindsey/?ref=bookmarks\\nLindsey on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/startovercoach\\nLindsey on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDQRnkwWkOxZcTNbSEx_q8w\\nHer book, MAGIC Words: How To Get What You Want From a Narcissist: https://amzn.to/2WfARDF\\nStart Over and Find Happiness Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/start-over-find-happiness/id1074313116?mt=2 \\nShould I Stay or Should I Go Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/shouldistayorshouldigo/\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices"