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b'This week\\u2019s guest is Silvy Khoucasian. She is a Relationship Coach who specializes in attachment styles as well as creating healthy boundaries. I invited her onto my podcast with the hope of having a rich conversation about attachment styles. Oh and we absolutely did have a rich and amazing conversation! If you are thinking, \\u201cAlright, Kate, what\\u2019s up with attachment styles and why are they important?\\u201d Well, our attachment styles are deeply rooted and can have a dramatic impact on the way we relate to someone as an adult. Yes, it always goes back to relationships, doesn\\u2019t it?\\xa0\\nSpeaking of relationships\\u2026 do you find yourself feeling triggered by your partner? Do you then project past hurts onto them (or maybe it\\u2019s the other way around)? If so, learning your attachment style and that of your partner can help you understand why you both react in certain ways (and what you can do about it). Silvy also takes us through the three different attachment styles and explains why they matter. Plus, we talk about why owning our needs is so important, including creating healthy boundaries, and what role family culture plays in attachment styles. Attachment styles can make or break a relationship without awareness of them. So let\\u2019s become aware.\\nShow Highlights\\n\\nThe main framework for attachment styles and the three primary styles (06:25)\\n\\nHow attachment styles manifest later in life, what they have to do with our current relationships and why attachment styles even matter (8:18)\\n\\nWhy we tend to choose partners that trigger us and what we can do about it (13:34)\\n\\nMaking sense of our story, allowing ourselves to grieve pain, neglect, and abandonment we experienced as a child (14:12)\\n\\nHow to you figure out your attachment style (16:19)\\n\\nThe importance of getting curious about your partner\\u2019s attachment style and validating him/her for their attachment style (21:34)\\n\\nWhy owning what we need is so important (23:53)\\n\\nUnderstanding attachment styles help us create healthy relationships, plus having empathy for their opposite style (30:40)\\n\\nModeling vulnerability opens up more influence with your partner (33:36)\\n\\nThe importance of having your partner show up in the work with you (38:10)\\n\\nStarting the conversation about boundaries (38:39)\\n\\nHow family culture influences our attachment styles (49:52)\\n\\nWhat avoidant or anxious attachers struggle with the most (57:07)\\n\\nLearn More About Silvy:\\nSilvy has a long-running love affair with helping struggling couples create genuine connection.\\xa0\\nShe has a Master\\u2019s Degree in Psychology (Marriage & Family Therapy) and a bachelors in Sociology.\\xa0\\nGrowing up in the USA as a young immigrant from the Middle East, Silvy has always been fascinated by the critical role family cultures play in intimate relationships.\\xa0\\nShe specializes in her work with attachment styles as well as creating healthy boundaries.\\nSilvy also has a background in theatrical arts, which allows her to use art & drama therapy in helping clients reclaim lost or suppressed parts of themselves.\\n\\xa0\\nLinks:\\nSilvy\\u2019s website: http://www.silvykhoucasian.com/\\nFollow Silvy on Instagram for some free, daily relationship advice:\\xa0https://www.instagram.com/silvykhoucasian/ Grab her Practical Communication Program, here: bit.ly/PracticalCommunication Attachment Style Test recommended by Silvy:http://secureinlove.com/my-love-style-quiz/\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'