Episode 234: Healing from Relationship Betrayal with Michelle Mays
b"Michelle Mays, author of The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst, joins me for an in-depth conversation about healing from betrayal. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She is also the founder of the Center for Relational Recovery in Northern Virginia, outside of DC.\\n\\u201cDivorce is common, and cheating is common. Because they are common,\\xa0it doesn\\u2019t mean they\\u2019re not tremendously significant and have enormous ramifications for our mental and physical health,\\u201d says Michelle. During our conversation, we discuss the importance of understanding what happened, explore betrayal through the lens of attachment systems, and unravel what happens to us when we experience this enormous injury.\\xa0\\n\\xa0Featured topics include:\\n\\nA new attachment-based model for understanding the impacts of cheating in relationships (8:58)\\n\\nSome of the binds in relationships that we can get stuck in including the shame bind and relational binds (12:01)\\n\\nWhat gets in the way of leaving when we want or know we need to leave (35:43)\\n\\nHealing and repairing relationships: what it means to stay, and what it takes to repair the fractures betrayal has caused (45:02)\\n\\nThe difference between rebuilding emotional connection and rebuilding sexual connection (50:21)\\n\\nLearn more about Michelle Mays:\\nMichelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She's also the author of the new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. Michelle has created The Braving Hope\\u2122 Treatment Model to address the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing.\\nMichelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor in Virginia and Washington DC, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor. She was trained by Pia Mellody in the Post Induction Therapy model for treating developmental trauma and is currently completing her PhD in Clinical Sexology and certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples.\\nResources & Links: Information and links may also be found at:\\xa0https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-234-healing-from-relationship-betrayal-with-michelle-mays/\\nPre-order Kate\\u2019s book \\u201cThe D Word\\u201d\\nMichelle\\u2019s websiteMichelle\\u2019s book, The Betrayal Bind Michelle on FacebookMichelle on InstagramMichelle on YouTube\\nFacing Codependence, Pia Mellody\\nGet Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you\\u2019ll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters.\\nI\\u2019ll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what\\u2019s ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace.\\nGET IT HERE\\nDISCLAIMER:\\xa0THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.\\xa0YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM."