Episode 220: Post-Separation Abuse and The Failure of the Family Court System with Zawn Villines
b"Zawn Villines returns to the show this week. Together we explore how men use the family court system to continue to abuse women. Zawn shares the harrowing story of Caroline Youseff Kassenoff, who experienced post-separation abuse in its most extreme form and who the family court system failed horribly. We discussed Kayden\\u2019s Law, double standards around mental health and infidelity, and how to quietly quit your marriage if you simply can\\u2019t leave.\\nZawn Villines is a feminist activist and writer who focuses on misogyny in motherhood and marriage. Her work argues that mothers are central to the feminist project and that fathers must participate equally in household and parenting labor. She believes that inequality in marriage is a primary driver of sexism and limits women's lives and futures.\\xa0\\nFeatured topics include:\\n\\nDARVO and how it plays into coercive control and post-separation abuse within family courts (15:48)\\n\\nThe double standard around mental health and infidelity between men and women (19:57(\\n\\nWhy men must hear, \\u201cBeing an extraordinary husband gets you an extraordinary wife. It gets you a better life.\\u201d (31:40)\\n\\n\\u201cMarriage is a huge and dangerous gamble that is not worth undertaking for most women.\\u201d (35:11)\\n\\nQuiet quitting: If you can\\u2019t leave, how can you still make a meaningful life? (35:35)\\n\\nKids know what is happening and eventually discover the truth - there often is justice down the line. (50:20)\\n\\nLearn more about Zawn Villines:\\nZawn Villines is a feminist activist and writer who focuses on misogyny in motherhood and marriage. Her work argues that mothers are central to the feminist project, and that fathers must participate equally in household and parenting labor. She believes that inequality in marriage is a primary driver of sexism, and that it limits women's lives and futures. Inequality at home is a form of abuse, and Zawn teaches women to push back on this unacceptable treatment and claim their rightful place in the family, at work, and in their communities.\\xa0\\xa0\\nHer weekly Feminist Advice Friday series advises people about how to live better and more just lives and how to use their relationships as pathways to liberation and joy.\\xa0\\xa0\\nOutside of her activism, Zawn has written full-time about science, medicine, politics, and the law for two decades. She writes a weekly reproductive justice column and runs a nonprofit childbirth justice organization.\\xa0\\nShe hopes to see more mothers claim the power and dignity of motherhood and end notions of mothers as irrelevant. Mothers are raising the next generation of resistance.\\xa0\\xa0\\nResources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-220-post-separation-abuse-and-the-failure-of-the-family-court-system-with-zawn-villines/\\nZawn\\u2019s website Zawn on Facebook Zawn on Instagram Subscribe to Zawn\\u2019s newsletter!988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline\\u2018Do not let my demise be in vain,\\u2019 Jess Taylor\\xa0\\nTODAY\\u2019S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINKProof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system comprises a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines:\\n\\nCourt admissibility in all 50 states\\n\\nFacial recognition\\n\\nTamper detection\\n\\nEasy-to-read Advanced Reporting\\u2122\\n\\nTrust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology\\u2122 to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases.\\nDISCLAIMER:\\xa0THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.\\xa0YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM."