b'Christina McGhee is back on the show! She joins me to talk about the language we use around divorce, co-parenting, and raising our children. The language we use can be damaging to our children, so this is such an important conversation to have and I hope you get a lot out of listening to it. In fact, even as a professional in this space, I have recently learned how to shift my language about divorce topics. Words matter and the way we convey our ideas do too.\\nChristina McGhee, MSW is an internationally recognized divorce parenting expert, speaker, and author. Whether she is speaking, coaching, or writing her goal is to disrupt the status quo, and change divorce for the better by helping families redefine themselves in meaningful ways.\\nShow Highlights\\n\\nThe way we talk about co-parenting with children by using the term \\u201cvisitation\\u201d and why it\\u2019s a terrible term to use (5:53)\\n\\nWhen parents focus on what\\u2019s \\u201cfair\\u201d for them, children internalize that their actions must be \\u201cfair\\u201d in order to make their parents feel ok (12:05)\\n\\nWhat is wrong with the word custody, how it affects children, and why parenting time is a better term to use (21:10)\\n\\nWhen we talk about equitable time-sharing\\xa0arrangements, we are talking about equal responsibility, plus Christina talks about the off-duty and on-duty parenting\\xa0model (26:57)\\n\\nWhy treating time with children as a commodity (50/50, 60/40, etc.)\\xa0is damaging (39:59)\\n\\nWhat is wrong with referring to your co-parent as your ex (51:53)\\n\\n\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'