Episode 139: Healing from Betrayal with Gilza Fort Martinez, LMFT
b"Betrayal is a broken promise. And oftentimes when you are faced with the decision to stay or go, you are forced to decide if you can work through the betrayal or if it\\u2019s better to walk away. Further, a betrayal leads to erosion of your sense of Self. So, how can you move forward\\u2014whether you remain with your partner or not\\u2014and come out the other side with your heart and sanity intact? This week I am joined by Gilza Fort Martinez to talk about what it takes to heal from a betrayal and how to recover your sense of Self in the aftermath. Healing will take effort and it will take willingness, but there is a way out. Gilza specializes in family therapy, women's transitions, as well as marital and premarital therapy. Her work focuses on helping women overcome the devastation of betrayal in order to restore their self-trust and help with the decision to re-engage in relationships. Listen to hear this informative and important conversation.\\nShow Highlights\\n\\nInfidelity is not the only form of betrayal. At betrayal\\u2019s core it\\u2019s a broken promise. (3:42)\\n\\nSome red flags that signal that you should seek therapy with your partner or explore what may be going on. \\u201cIf we pay attention a little sooner, we can intervene.\\u201d (9:27)\\n\\nLosing your sense of Self in relationships: how it happens. (9:53)\\n\\nWhy we gravitate toward toxic or mismatched relationships. (12:46)\\n\\nGilza answers the million-dollar question: why do people cheat? (16:10)\\n\\nThe difference between discovered infidelity versus a partner disclosing they have cheated. (22:33)\\n\\nHow to determine if the betrayal you\\u2019ve felt is something you can work through or walk away from. (26:06)\\n\\nThe essence of a sincere apology. Hint: it\\u2019s about ownership. (30:18)\\n\\nThe emotional hits your partner must be willing to absorb during the healing process. (32:59)\\n\\nHow to recover your sense of Self after you\\u2019ve been betrayed. (50:55)\\n\\nLearn More About Gilza:\\nGilza Fort Martinez is a bilingual licensed marriage and family therapist in Florida with over 30 years of experience in conflict resolution, improving interpersonal relationships, and navigating life transitions.\\xa0\\xa0\\nShe specializes in family therapy, women's transitions, as well as marital and premarital therapy. Her work focuses on helping women overcome the devastation of Betrayal in order to restore their self-trust and help with the decision to re-engage in relationships.\\xa0Her approach to helping you rediscover yourself is honest and solution-focused so that you can focus on living a fulfilled life in emotional wellness.\\xa0\\nAside from her one-to-one work with clients, she has a woman-owned and run practice and has focused on collaborating and encouraging other women therapists to start and thrive in their own practice!\\xa0She also has significant experience in public speaking and leading workshops for corporations and organizations about a wide range of topics including stress and conflict management, improving communication effectiveness, leadership, and more.\\xa0Gilza has been featured in multiple media outlets including Self-Prevention, Greatist, Shondaland, Telemundo, Univision, People in Espa\\xf1ol, and others. Recently she has participated in several podcasts highlighting women, their challenges, and triumphs.\\xa0\\xa0\\nResources & Links:For show notes and resources, also visit: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/healing-from-betrayal-with-gilza-fort-martinez-lmft\\nThe Divorce Survival Program is here.\\xa0Learn more or purchase! Gilza's website Gilza on Instagram\\nJOIN THE SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO FACEBOOK GROUP\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices"