Episode 117: Radical Intimacy with Zoe Kors

Published: May 6, 2021, 1:55 p.m.

We are so conditioned to expect that Prince Charming will show up on his white horse and deliver us radical intimacy; he will sweep us off our feet and the rest is history. Let\u2019s be real - that's just not how intimacy works.\xa0\nIn fact, as Zo\xeb Kors, a sought-after thought leader on intimacy and sexuality, says\xa0\u201cWe are not taught these [intimacy] skills. We are programmed to believe passion, sex, and love happen spontaneously.\u201d Zo\xeb joins me to discuss how to cultivate radical intimacy within ourselves and explore why we expect and often demand something from others we don\u2019t know how to give to ourselves.\xa0\nWe tend to think intimacy is something that requires a lover, but radical intimacy is a rich experience of yourself; and as a result, it allows you to have a rich experience with someone else. Tune in to hear how to embrace a radically intimate life.\nShow Highlights\n\nWhat Zoe means when she uses the term \u2018radical intimacy\u2019. (3:38)\n\nCultivating intimacy and the three areas of intimacy: physical, emotional, and energetic. (7:19)\n\nEnergetic intimacy and the emotional attachment myth - women believe they are, by nature, are emotionally attached to the people they have sex with. (10:30)\n\nSome habits and actions we do disconnect us from our bodies. (21:46)\n\nThree ways we run away from pain and feel discomfort: denial, distraction, and deflection. (24:11)\n\nComing out of a marriage is an opportunity to heal and take back your sovereignty. (36:57)\n\nThe paths of sexual healing and finding safety in your own body. (40:01)\n\nHow to reignite sexual intimacy within relationships. (42:04)\n\nLearn More About Zo\xeb:\nZo\xeb is the resident sex and intimacy coach and contributor at Coral, sexual wellness app. Zo\xeb is the former Senior Editor and Creative Director of LA Yoga Magazine. Zo\xeb\u2019s article, 6 Ways to Have Radically Intimate Sex, quickly went viral and is currently at over 2 million views and over 250K Facebook shares.\xa0\nIn addition to a thriving private practice, Zo\xeb offers her services through the Center for Relational Healing, which specializes in the treatment of sex addicts and their partners. As a team member, Zo\xeb works with clients to reintroduce healthy sexuality and intimacy after the trauma of betrayal.\xa0\xa0\xa0\nShe is a certified Co-Active Coach with the prestigious Co-Active Training Institute in San Rafael, CA. Zo\xeb is initiated in the Sri Vidya tantra lineage. Her work reflects her extensive study of Tantra, Zen Buddhism, Meditation, Yoga, Breathwork, and other Eastern disciplines, which she integrates with more process-oriented modalities of Western psychotherapy and Co-Active Coaching.\nResources & Links:\nZoe\u2019s websiteZoe on Instagram FREE download from Zoe: 21 Days to Mind-blowing Sex\nJOIN THE SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO FACEBOOK GROUP\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices