The tantrum. The whining about going to school. The punch that\u2019s thrown. The slipping grades. The sneaking out. The lie. The shouting. The moping around the house.These are not things you like to see your kids do. Maybe these are things you\u2019ve talked to them about before, maybe a million times. But maybe that\u2019s the problem. You\u2019re seeing the wrong thing. You\u2019re talking about the wrong thing.In her wonderful book Good Inside (yes, we love it), Dr. Becky Kennedy writes that \u201con the surface we s...