b'One of the things Napoleon advised his generals against was \\u201cforming a picture\\u201d of the battle. What he meant was that your preconceived notions, your predictions, were a dangerous liability in something as fluid and fast-paced as a battle. As it happens, this is good advice for fathers as well. It\\u2019s easy to go into it thinking that you know. Because you\\u2019ve read the books. Because you\\u2019re on your third kid now and have it handled. Because you and your spouse have a plan for how to ...'