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How to Master Anger Management

Published: May 12, 2016, midnight

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Anger Management Tip #1: \\xa0Forget Perfection

First and foremost, we need to forget about being the perfect father, because in all honesty, it doesn\\u2019t exist.\\xa0 Being a dad is extremely rewarding, but it is also a tough business.\\xa0 As men, we take a lot of pride in providing for our families and sharpening our craft in the workforce.\\xa0 We are wired to hunt and problem solve.\\xa0 Being a father is a dynamic that constantly sharpened and we can be humbled at every turn.\\xa0 Keep in mind, perfection is a myth.\\xa0 If you want true happiness, focus on progress and not perfection.

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Anger Management Tip #2: \\xa0Know your Triggers

Being proactive in our mindset will set us up for ultimate success.\\xa0 Most of us men have the lowest amount of patience when we first wake up in the morning, come home from work, and right before bed.\\xa0 Why is that?\\xa0 In the morning, we are just trying to clear the cobwebs before taking on the day.\\xa0 Not taking time to wake up 15-30 minutes early (before the kids) is like going for a 3 mile sprint without a warmup.\\xa0 When we come home from work, we are usually exhausted, overloaded, and "hangry" (hungry and angry).\\xa0 Late at night we are usually pretty spent, exhausted, the kids can be fighting us in every way possible to go to bed.

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Solution for the morning

Get up early, shower, pray (if you are spiritual), meditate (if that is your thing), listen to a podcast (if you are more of an audio person), etc\\u2026you get it.\\xa0 Do something for yourself to warm your mind and patience up.

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Solution for the ride home from work

Grab a snack to get that blood sugar up and listen to something empowering (podcast, audiobook, your favorite workout music, etc).\\xa0 The point is get the blood sugar in check and your mind in the right place.

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Solution for late at night

Keep in mind that your evenings are meant to make the best memories, so don\\u2019t blow it.\\xa0 Set the evening up for success by doing something (other than watching TV) as a family.\\xa0 Also, spend time with each kid before bed (pray together, talk about the day, ask questions that bring our gratitude, etc.)\\xa0 This will honestly propel your evening and experience into a new orbit.

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Anger Management Tip #3: \\xa0Calm through the Breath

Even the greatest dads have bad moments.\\xa0 We all have been moment no matter how hard we try.\\xa0 We all have the knee jerk reaction when we blow up and explode.\\xa0 After we react like that there is a ton of guilt, shame, and defeat that follows.\\xa0 Want to know the secret to staying calm, cool, and collected?\\xa0 Here it is:\\xa0 you have to create some \\u201cmental space\\u201d between your knee jerk reaction and your response.\\xa0 Meaning, think before you act.\\xa0 We can all achieve this by doing the most natural thing that we do unconsciously\\u2026breathe.\\xa0 We can use the breath to calm ourselves.\\xa0 Three deep breaths is all you need in the heat of the moment to calm yourself just enough to respond versus react. \\xa0Go check out our interview with Mark Divine on How to Create an Unbeatable Mind - Episode 28, for more information on breath control.

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