Episode 33: People Pleasing & Developing Your Own Inner Compass: Thoughts on Depression, Mental Health & the Church, and Finding Hope in Dark Places

Published: Dec. 15, 2022, 9:02 a.m.

b"Were you subtly conditioned to please others at the expense of yourself? I loved talking with my friend and fellow therapist, Dr. Monique Gadson, on today's episode of the podcast. We met through an IG Live prayer session! She's since become the best sort of real-life friend\\u2014someone whose wisdom, empathy, and realness breathes life into weary souls.\\n\\nIf you've struggled with depression or felt overlooked\\u2014even as you constantly show up for others\\u2014please lean in close. Dr. Monique is candid about her own journey through depression and how she lost herself in all the voices around her. In a powerful turn of events, Monique began to bring mental health directly to the center of the church, where she's practiced as a counselor for decades.\\xa0\\n\\nWe cover so much in today's episode, including:\\n\\n1. A key moment from childhood when she learned to please others\\n\\n2. Monique\\u2019s experience as a PK\\n\\n3. The burden of always attuning to others when you're disconnected from your own self\\n\\n4. Monique\\u2019s early experience with depression and how she got help\\n\\n5. Practical tips if you struggle with feeling \\u201cjoy\\u201d at the holidays\\n\\n6. Finding your own way as a parent amidst all of the voices\\n\\n7. Monique's call to bring mental health *into* the church\\n\\n8. Jesus and people pleasing\\n\\n9. The power of friendship to bring hope in dark places\\n\\nCheck out Dr. Monique's brand new book with Clarence Shuler, Finding Hope in A Dark Place: Facing Loneliness, Depression, and Anxiety with the Power of Grace.\\n\\nConnect with Dr. Monique at drmoniquesmithgadson.com or on Instagram @drmoniquesmithgadson\\n\\nIf you are struggling with depression, please find resources for support on my website.\\n\\n\\n\\nThanks to our sponsors:\\xa0\\n\\nOrganifi \\u2014Go to www.organifi.com/bestofyou and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today! \\xa0\\n\\nThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelp \\u2014Go to www.betterhelp.com/bestofyou and use code BESTOFYOU for 10% off your first month! \\xa0\\n\\nDownload Abide Sleep and Pray Meditation and text my promo code BESTOFYOU to 22433 today to get 25% off! \\xa0\\n\\n\\n\\nGet your print, ebook, or audio copy of The Best of You anywhere books are sold. \\xa0\\n\\nFind a list of resources and the full transcript for this episode here\\n\\n\\n\\nMusic by Andy Luiten\\n\\nSound editing by Kelly Kramarik\\xa0\\n\\nWhile Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.\\n\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices"