For survivors of abuse, it can be difficult to shift their mindset from victim to victor. So often, the trauma in the wake of abuse leaves open wounds that are salted by setting up camp in the \u201cvictim mentality\u201d, rather than seeking healing.\xa0
Taylor Doulas, an amazing mother, captivating speaker, retreat and event organizer, as well as personal development mentor and interpersonal influence mentor, joins me today to share her story. Taylor is a survivor of emotional abuse and she speaks into the trauma she endured as well as how she overcame that trauma and stepped into resiliency and healing.\xa0
Taylor expresses a very abrupt approach to healing that some people experience. Instead of slipping into a victim mentality, Taylor was strategic and determined to find healing after her emotional abuse. She shares the tactics she implemented to harness her healing and how she shifted her mentality from \u201cfollowing others\u201d to \u201cchoosing herself\u201d. Taylor explains that her healing looked like immersing herself in personal development in every sense of the phrase \u2013 she read books, attended seminars, and befriended others who had the same laser-like focus on improving themselves.\xa0
In my conversation with Taylor, I dissect the difference between intentional and unintentional abuse and describe what that looks like. Taylor defines co-abuse, shares her own experiences with it, and explains why it manifests itself far too often. \xa0
Taylor describes what her life looks like now that she has overcome the trauma she experienced. She shares how her abuse has shaped her and impacted the way she reacts to and interacts with others. We go in-depth on how she works to be intentional with her family and not let her past abuse affect her present joy.\xa0
\u201cHealing from that situation \u2013 choosing to heal from that situation \u2013 changed the direction of my entire life and who I get to be in the world\u201d
\u201cI was healed not hardened.\u201d
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