EP 415: The Secret to New Years Resolutions

Published: Jan. 4, 2021, 10:43 p.m.

Let\u2019s talk about New Years Resolutions.
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\nWe\u2019ve all tried, and few have succeeded, to make sweeping changes in our behavior.
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\nAnd the new year is a very tempting time for this effort!
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\nBut the fact is that even though we feel as though we always \u2018fail\u2019 at these attempts, I don\u2019t think that\u2019s true.
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\n\u2018Failure\u2019 to lose 20 pounds, for example, looks like going on and sticking to a diet for 20 weeks and finding that we haven\u2019t lost the weight.
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\nBut that\u2019s not what our resolutions usually look like.
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\nWhat happens is more along the lines of sticking to a diet for a few days or weeks and then having that slice of pizza and declaring the diet to be over.
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\nTo me, this is self-sabotage that comes from the fear of failure.
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\nSelf Compassion - the act of supporting ourselves through difficult times, including times of failure - can eliminate this fear of failure and empower our success.
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\nThis applies as much to our daily achievements as it does to those big New Years' resolutions.
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\nWould you like to learn how to develop this amazing power for yourself?