219: Boundaries (With Judgy People)
\u201cHi! I'm a devout listener of your podcast, and really appreciate everything you do to make that possible! I've gained a lot of emotional intelligence and lost a lot of guilt over small things!\nI'm a 24-year working mama in school with 2 little ones, and\xa0on Thursday\xa0I'm getting a breast augmentation and lift!!! I'm extremely excited but have not told anyone I work with or really anyone except my 3 closest people.\nI decided to go through with this and not let fear of other's judgment affect my decisions! However, I'm still nervous people (especially my in-laws) are going to think I'm "loaded" even though I have always been excellent at budgeting and finances, and work for everything I have. I'm really hoping you can give me some advice on 2 things.\n\nIs it a good idea or is it even possible to keep this private?\n\n\n2. How do I deal with people's responses if they do find out? I've already come up with a few "mantras" for myself: "You are not a bad mother for getting this done", "You are not robbing money that could have been better spent on your children", "My husband supports this decision, and I am not wasting our money". But I just do not want to deal with the consequences of everyone knowing and having negative reactions.\n\nThanks again for producing amazing content, that literally changes peoples\u2019 lives!\u201d\nI had sooooo much to say about this (of course!)\xa0Listen in to hear my reply.\nLinks Mentioned:\nShameless Mom Academy Ep 161: Boob Job\n\nThank you to our sponsors:\n\n\nThird Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love\n\n\n\nLola: Get 100% organic tampons delivered right to your door for 40% off. Go to Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout.\n\n\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices