179 Another One that Teaches Us to Communicate Better with Others

Published: Jan. 29, 2021, 6 a.m.

My guest today is back for part 2 of a lesson in communication. She is Temperaments expert, and I Said This, You Heard That author, Kathleen Edelman. Her mission is to help people use words that build others up. She teaches that \u201cThe words you use are a gift that you give to other people\u201d. That statement should make us want to think about our words more carefully! Today, Kathleen further explains the Four Temperaments and what to do when we experience miscommunication. If you missed part 1 of this interview, please check it out on episode 117.\xa0

Nation! I cannot have a conversation with Kathleen and not learn something new about the I Said This, You Heard That study. I would consider myself a diligent student of her material for the past two years, and there is always more to learn. \xa0

Learning about Temperaments is, hands down, one of the best things I have done to understand how my words sound to people as I am speaking with them. It has been a gamechanger in how I communicate with my team and my family and friends.\xa0

I hope that the next time you\u2019re speaking to someone else, you choose words that are a gift from you to them.\xa0

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Introducing Kathleen [5:55]\xa0

Trace, what was your biggest takeaway from the I Said This, You Heard That Book? [10:00]\xa0

Describe the 4 Temperaments [13:25]\xa0

How do we use the Temperaments in our communication? [19:50]\xa0

What to do when you make a communication mistake [29:20]\xa0

How can we identify other people\u2019s Temperaments and communicate better? [32:40]\xa0

Being aware of how your own weaknesses affect others [42:50]\xa0

Don\u2019t use your Temperament as a weapon or an excuse [48:05]\xa0

Lightning round with Kathleen [51:51]\xa0

James\u2019 Challenge: \u201cSend handwritten notes to those who have helped you\u201d [1:55]\xa0

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Quotes:\xa0\xa0

\u201cWe are responsible for bringing out the best in each other.\u201d - Kathleen Edelman \xa0

\u201cIf we take the time to be intentional, the reward is so much greater.\u201d - Kathleen Edelman \xa0

\u201cThe person responsible for being the best version of me is ME.\u201d - Kathleen Edelman \xa0

\u201cYour Temperament never changes, but personality can change over time.\u201d - Kathleen Edelman\xa0\xa0

\u201cEvery Temperament can be a good leader.\u201d - Kathleen Edelman\xa0\xa0

\u201cIt\u2019s never too late to start communicating better.\u201d - Kathleen Edelman\xa0\xa0

\u201cLearning about the Temperaments has been a game-changer on how I communicate.\u201d - Trace Blackmore\xa0

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Links Mentioned:\xa0\xa0

117 The One With Temperament Expert, Kathleen Edelman

Episode 281 The One About The Power of Kindness with Kathleen Edelman

Rising Tide Mastermind

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Books Mentioned:\xa0

I Said This, You Heard That Workbook by Kathleen Edelman

I Said This, You Heard That 2nd Edition by Kathleen Edelman

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey

Atomic Habits by James Clear

The Hiding Place by Corrie Ten Boom

The Bone Collector\xa0by Jeffery Deaver

Beneath a Scarlet Sky\xa0by Mark Sullivan

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