The Upper Limit Problem (Katie Hendricks, PhD)
Dr. Katie Hendricks is the co-founder of The Hendricks Institute and the co-author of 12 books, including the bestseller, Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment. Katie and her husband, Gay, have been leading seminars and workshops for individuals and couples for decades\u2014moving them from their definition of co-dependence into co-commitment. We touch on it in our conversation, but their definition of co-dependence is the only one I\u2019ve heard that makes sense to me as they suggest co-dependence at its simplest is when your behavior is determined by someone else\u2019s\u2014when you are adjusting yourself around someone else in a way that is a disservice to the relationship. Instead, they argue for co-commitment, where everyone takes complete responsibility for their own actions and their own lives. They coach a lot of tools that I love to talk about on this podcast, including the Drama Triangle, and they also coined the concept of the Upper Limit Problem, which is our tendency\u2014just when things are going really well\u2013to self-sabotage. That\u2019s a big focus of our conversation today.\n\nMORE FROM KATIE HENDRICKS, PhD:\nConscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment\nThe Conscious Heart: Seven Soul-Choices that Create Your Relationship Destiny\nThe Big Leap, by Gay Hendricks, PhD\nThe Hendricks Institute\nFoundation for Conscious Living\nFollow Katie & Gay on Instagram\n \nTo learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy\n \n Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices