The Myth of Resilience (Soraya Chemaly)
b"\\u201cThis is the richness of the traditional wife explosion, right? There's this simple idea that you get to choose. Now you're choosing to emulate a situation that's a fiction in that those women didn't choose anything. They had to dress like that. They had to live like that. They had to be nice to the men like that, because they had no bank accounts. They had no cars. They had no licenses. They had no income. They had no security. So, don't equate these two things because you're just kind of living a dignified version of something that was pretty egregiously harmful, you know. And it's the difference, I think, in knowing that you have an option.\\u201d\\nSo says Soraya Chemaly, an award-winning writer, journalist and activist whose work has been at the center of mine. Her now-classic, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women\\u2019s Anger lit me on fire\\u2014not only for the deftness of her arguments but also because she is a meticulous researcher. What she gave air to in the pages of that book blew me away. She figures prominently in the endnotes of On Our Best Behavior.\\nHer new book, The Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Grit, Strength, and Growth After Trauma, follows a similar path. Soraya takes something we\\u2019ve been served as an ideal\\u2014develop resilience\\u2014and flips it on its head, both widening and undermining this definition. She challenges our cultural myths about this concept and urges us all to shift and expand our perspective on the trait, moving from prioritizing the role of the individual to overcome and conquer to focusing on what\\u2019s really at work, which is collective care and connections with our communities. As she proves in these pages, resilience is always relational.\\xa0\\n\\nMORE FROM SORAYA CHEMALY:\\nThe Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Grit, Strength, and Growth After Trauma\\nRage Becomes Her: The Power of Women\\u2019s Anger\\nFollow Soraya on Instagram\\nSoraya\\u2019s Website\\n \\nTo learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy\\n \\n Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices"