On Self-Regulation (Aliza Pressman, PhD)
\u201cI think that with regulation, the funny thing is that it's either I want to control the weather around my children, or I want to control my children, but\xa0regulation is very much a self thing for adults and a co regulation thing between you and other, especially you and a young person whose brain isn't fully able to self regulate. But if you're so focused on controlling all these outside things that you can't, like the weather, then you get to let yourself off the hook of getting into the much harder, but more possible work of self regulation and of figuring out your own stuff. And all of that has\xa0much bigger benefits to your kids, of course, than making the weather perfect around them, but it just is harder. Even though it shouldn't be so easy to change the weather, but it does appear that is what happens, right?\u201d\xa0\n\nSo says Aliza Pressman, development psychologist and Assistant Clinical Professor in the Division of Behavioral Health Department of Pediatrics at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai Hospital where she is co-founding director of The Mount Sinai Parenting Center. Aliza is also the host of the hit podcast, Raising Good Humans, and the author of The Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans.\n\nI love Aliza for many reasons: Yes, we all want friends who are developmental psychologists on speed-dial, but she\u2019s also different in the way she delivers advice. For one, she cuts right to the point, reminding and reaffirming that while yes, every family has its own complicating factors, the basic tenets of raising good humans are simple. You don\u2019t need your own PhD in parenting to do the job, nor do you need a PhD to re-parent yourself, you need to focus on the elements she outlines in The Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans: Relationship, Reflection, Regulation, Rules, and Repair. As she explains, through practice and normalizing imperfection, along the way you\u2019ll discover the person you\u2019re ultimately raising is yourself. By becoming more intentional people, we become better parents. By becoming better parents, we become better people.\nIn today\u2019s conversation, we touch on these tenets while also exploring the particular social world we find ourselves in, one in which there seems to be an expectation that we can and should control the weather for our kids.\xa0\n\nMORE FROM ALIZA PRESSMAN, PhD:\nThe Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans\nRaising Good Humans Podcast\nAliza\u2019s Website\nFollow Aliza on Instagram\nAliza\u2019s Newsletter\n \nTo learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy\n \n Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices