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\u201cUsually in high conflict, the conflict becomes the whole point. So you make a lot of mistakes and you can miss opportunities that would actually be in the interest you are fighting for.\xa0The reason you got into the fight to begin with, whereas good conflict is the kind of conflict where again, you can be angry, you can be yell, you can have radical visions for the future. You can and must, you know, organize and protest and hold people accountable. But you do it much more skillfully. You make fewer mistakes because you're not essentially being controlled by the conflict. You're not in the trance of high conflict. And it's, you know, it's not easy to stay in good conflict. Everybody is gonna visit high conflict, even if it's for, you know, a few minutes, but you don't wanna live there because you, you and your cause will suffer.\u201d\xa0\nSo says Amanda Ripley, investigative journalist, podcast host, New York Times bestselling author and the queen of conflict - good conflict, that is. Amanda\u2019s most recent book - High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out - draws on her years of experience trying to make sense of conflict on a personal and political level\u2014particularly in this heightened time of OUTRAGE.\xa0\nNot all conflict is bad, Amanda tells us. In bad conflict, what she calls high conflict, the conflict becomes the whole point, an us vs. them mentality that takes on a life of its own and leads participants down a path of perpetual anger without resolution. Good conflict, on the other hand, goes somewhere interesting as genuine curiosity and deep listening leads to better mutual understanding. So how do we make the shift?\nIn our discussion, Amanda arms us with a mind-opening new way to think about conflict that will transform how we move through the world. We talk about what it means to get curious about what lies beneath the surface of a conflict; how our own unresolved internal conflicts often inform our external conflicts; as well as the importance of engaging in deep listening in order to make others feel truly heard. In a world engineered for misunderstanding, Amanda gives us faith that individuals, and even entire communities, can end the doom loop of outrage and blame if they can learn to really hear each other.\xa0\n\nEPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:\n\nWhat would it be like if you got what you wanted?\u2026\n\nConflict entrepreneurs\u2026\n\nHigh conflict and the death of curiosity\u2026\n\nDeep listening and making others feel heard\u2026\n\n\nMORE FROM AMANDA RIPLEY:\nHigh Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out\nThe Smartest Kids in the World: And How They Got That Way\nThe Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes - And Why\nListen to Amanda\u2019s Podcast, How To! on Apple Podcasts and Spotify\nAmanda's Website\nFollow Amanda on Twitter\n \nTo learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy\n \n Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices