Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships (Nedra Tawwab)
\u201cI think the biggest challenge with codependency is, when a family member is catered to when their unhealthy or toxic behavior is catered to, it makes the other people in the situation neglected. You know, if you have a sibling who's getting more care than you, or you know, more financial support, that feels a certain way to you. And often we take that out on not just the person doing it, but the other person involved too. So the codependency just, it doesn't impact one relationship, it impacts many. And it really doesn't set anyone up for success. The best way to help a person is sometimes not helping. You know, I think about, um, all of the help I didn't receive, but figured it out. Those were the biggest lessons versus someone rescuing me or doing the work for me, or me never having to figure out this thing because there is someone I can call.\u201d\nSo says Nedra Glover Tawwab, sought-after relationship expert, licensed therapist and New York Times best-selling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself. Her new book, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships is sure to hit the list as well.\nIn this latest book, Nedra puts her 15 years of experience to work to demystify the ways that our earliest relationships\u2014those with our family of origin\u2014can lead us astray, causing us to abandon ourselves to maintain connection. Like her first bestseller, Drama-Free is packed with insights that are broken up in such a way as to be instantly actionable. Ultimately, it tackles what dysfunctional families look and feel like\u2014and how to break free. Nedra is responsible for mainstreaming a cultural understanding of \u201cboundaries,\u201d and she now tackles other ideas that we all need to address, like co-dependency and enmeshment. In today\u2019s conversation, we cover a lot of ground, including parenting, re-parenting, and what it means to offer support without overstepping.\n\nMORE FROM NEDRA TAWWAB:\nDrama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships\nSet Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself\nThe Set Boundaries Workbook: Practical Exercises for Understanding Your Needs and Setting Healthy Limits\n\nFollow Nedra on Instagram and Twitter\nSign up for Nedra\u2019s Newsletter\xa0\n \nTo learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy\n \n Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices