Loving the End (Alua Arthur)

Published: May 2, 2024, 7:01 a.m.

\u201cWhen we can pause for a moment and rifle through all that noise to figure out what the root of the fear is, then we can be with it in a meaningful way, rather than just let it run our lives. And a little bit of fear of death and a little bit of death anxiety is totally normal, for all of us. I mean, it's that thing inside that tells you not to keep walking when you get to the edge of a cliff, and even to like drink water, you know, hydrate, stay alive. It's in us. It's in our DNA. It's rooted in there. And so the goal is never to get over it entirely, but rather to learn from it, to be with it, to not let it run our lives, but rather to let it fuel our lives.\u201d\nSo says Alua Arthur, a death doula and recovering attorney who is the author of Briefly, Perfectly, Human, which is a guidebook for both how to live and also how to die. Alua is the founder of Going with Grace, a death doula training and end-of-life planning organization. In today\u2019s conversation, we talk about what it would look like to get our death phobic culture a little closer to the end, why people fear dying, and what can be gained when we recognize the priceless gifts that come when our lives come to a close. Let\u2019s get to our conversation.\n\nMORE FROM ALUA ARTHUR:\nBriefly, Perfectly, Human\nFollow Alua on Instagram\nGoing with Grace Website\n\nRELATED EPISODES:\nB.J. Miller: \u201cStruggle is Real\u2014Suffering is Optional\u201d\nRoshi Joan Halifax: \u201cStanding at the Edge\u201d\nFrank Oswaseski: \u201cAccepting the Invitation\u201d\n \nTo learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy\n \n Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices