b"\\u201cIn writing my book, I wanted to bring it back to the self because being online allows us to have this inappropriate level of audacity. And I think audacity is a very beautiful thing, but it gets so inappropriate online where you can go into Elise's messages and say, \\u201cby the way, I saw you liked this, you should be liking this, prove yourself to me\\u201d-- when the same person is probably not even able to have a conversation with their own partner in their home, but they can go online and demand people to say certain things, but in your home, are you that courageous to have a difficult conversation? Are you that courageous to have that same level of audacity in your day to day life. And I just worry that we're performing this very shadowy version of ourselves, especially online, without making any kind of effort in our everyday life to cultivate a strong sense of self, where you're able to handle conflict, where you're able to express disappointment to someone face to face and have a dialogue.\\u201d\\nSo says Africa Brooke, coach and author of The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in the Age of Intolerance. I\\u2019ve been smitten with Africa for years, after I was one of the 12 million-odd people who read her Instagram manifesto, \\u201cWhy I\\u2019m Leaving the Cult of Wokeness\\u201d in 2020. There, Africa gave voice to being part of a culture that was supposed to be tented around diversity and inclusion, and yet, she found herself sounding and behaving in an increasingly intolerant way, a way that resisted diversity of thought. Originally from Zimbabwe, Africa lives in the U.K. and had already amassed a following for documenting her path to sobriety online\\u2014a path that anticipated the sober curious movement that\\u2019s become more mainstream today. She\\u2019s well-versed in spotting patterns and recognizing the way culture was working both on her and in her, in ways that were separating her from herself.\\xa0\\nI loved this conversation, a conversation I was very excited to have\\u2014it\\u2019s a vulnerable one. I\\u2019m grateful to Africa for saying what needs to be said and conscious that more of us need to join her. As she explains, people quickly finger her as far-right\\u2014and the far-right would love nothing more than to co-opt her\\u2014but she\\u2019s more of a social justice advocate than ever. She needs people in the center, and people on the left to join her in pointing out how our cancel culture is, to use her term, actually \\u201ccollective sabotage.\\u201d And how we abandon our highest principles when we turn on each other so quickly and make each other \\u201cwrong.\\u201d I think this conversation speaks for itself.\\n\\nMORE FROM AFRICA BROOKE:\\nThe Third Perspective: Brave Expression in the Age of Intolerance\\n\\u201cWhy I\\u2019m leaving the cult of wokeness\\u201d\\nAfrica\\u2019s Website\\nFollow Africa on Instagram\\nAfrica\\u2019s Podcast: \\u201cBeyond the Self\\u201d\\nLoretta Ross\\u2019s Episode: \\u201cCalling in the Call-Out Culture\\u201d\\n \\nTo learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy\\n \\n Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices"