EP 87: Overcome the Fear of Success and the Fear of Failure with Becca
This episode is about overcoming the fear of success and the fear of failure. During the coaching session with Becca, it is clear she intellectually knows what she needs to do to build her business, but she can\u2019t commit to doing it.
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Everyone defines fear and success differently, but usually our fear of success has to do with being seen more, feeling unsafe, feeling more responsibility for changing, or changing or losing ourselves in some way. Our fear of failure normally has something to do with rejection, loss of money, or status, or security, judgment from others, or our own self-criticism that we endure if we fail.
So, how do we overcome these fears? It's about more than taking action steps towards your goals. Maybe, you have tried to overcome it by just doing whatever it is. But, until you upgrade the beliefs and old triggers, which perpetuate the fear, you will continue to find yourself in your own way.
Many people think money will make them feel better about themselves or make them more confident. But it doesn\u2019t \u2014 confidence is an inside job. We can\u2019t create self-worth from money, but we can create net worth from self-worth.
When we have self-worth and do the internal work, we express our gifts and align with our higher purpose. We are then able to attract money to us. It is important for us to have a wealth consciousness.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
\u25cf What are your fears around failure or success? Do you know what to do when it comes to your business, but you aren't doing it?
\u25cf Is there a part of you that has longed to fit in?
\u25cf Do you feel guilty if you have too much good in your life?
Becca's Question:
Becca is about to start a new quest but she finds herself unable to get started.
Becca's Key Insights and Ahas:
\u25cf She didn\u2019t like growing up privileged.
\u25cf Cooking is her way of connecting to people.
\u25cf Guilt and shame were at the core of her eating disorder.
\u25cf She enjoyed having a secret, which was her eating disorder.
\u25cf She has an unhealthy relationship with money and success.
\u25cf Her guilt prevents her from stepping into her passion.
\u25cf She is scared not to have connections with people.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
\u25cf She needs a new image of what success and wealth look like.
\u25cf She should write out her new definition of fitting in, and her definition of success.
\u25cf She needs to give herself a feeling of longing and connection.
\u25cf She needs to work on feeling grateful.
\u25cf She should get a business coach.
Takeaways:
\u25cf Write out your new definitions of success and failure. Get clear about how you want to define success.
\u25cf Write out your worst-case scenarios around success and failure.
\u25cf Identify the payoff of your negative emotions and find a way to get the payoff in a positive way.
\u25cf If you are starting a business, invest in a coach to help hold you accountable.
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