This episode is about the protective patterns we create when we don\u2019t feel safe. Today\u2019s caller, Amanda, says she wants guidance on how to access her sensuality but the core issue is truly about how she can feel safe and be vulnerable. We can\u2019t feel safe in our sexuality or sensuality unless we feel safe in our vulnerability.
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[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode370]
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When women don\u2019t feel safe in their bodies we tend to go into our heads. We talk, talk, talk, and don\u2019t notice what is going on in our bodies. As human beings, we are a combination of doing and being, flowing and going, masculine and feminine, sensual and productive, right and left. So, one of our biggest turn-ons is safety. If we feel safe, we can let go. If we don\u2019t feel safe, forget about it. We need to learn that it is safe to feel and to be emotionally vulnerable.
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When we attempt to make changes while in frustration, it is important to shift into vulnerability and full self-expression. We need to accept all aspects of ourselves. Sensuality can feel scary because it feels out of control when we keep our safe place in our heads.
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When we don\u2019t feel safe, we have protective patterns that frustrate us. We judge the patterns and try to change them. But, nothing heals judgment. The first step of healing is to love, accept, and thank the pattern for protecting us.
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If you don\u2019t feel safe expressing yourself emotionally, you won\u2019t feel safe expressing yourself sensually and sexually. When an expression is muted, all expressions are muted.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
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Amanda\u2019s Question:
Amanda feels shame and guilt when it comes to sensuality and would like guidance on how to embody her sexuality without guilt and to feel good.
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Amanda\u2019s Key Insights and Ahas:
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How to Get Over It and On With It:
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Takeaways:
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