This episode is breaking familiar generational patterns. Today\u2019s caller, Angel, grew up in a chaotic home. As an adult, he seeks out chaos and uses numbing strategies when he feels triggered. We work through ways he can recognize the triggers and how he can make them an opportunity for healing without self-blame or shame.
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[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode346]
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Unraveling and healing from trauma in our childhoods take time. It is hard to deal with our past when we distract ourselves by things happening in the present or with numbing strategies.
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Because we are often drawn to what is familiar, not what is healthy, that gets a lot of us stuck. We keep going back to things we know are not healthy, then we get stuck in the cycle of self-blame and shame without being compassionate with ourselves.
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A trigger is a gateway to healing, but if we go to a distraction or a quick fix we miss the opportunity for deeper healing. It\u2019s about making the decision at the time of the trigger to go inside and that is when we do the work.
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A disorganized attachment style is formed when we have had a chaotic childhood. A disorganized attachment style is like a \u201ccome here, now go away\u201d pattern. It is the wanting of attention and affection, wanting to be seen but also wanting to withdraw. When real intimacy and real love get too close, the person with a disorganized attachment style wants to push it away.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
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Angel\u2019s Question:
Angel seeks chaos and conflict and would like guidance on how to feel a sense of safety and be in his body.
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Angel\u2019s Key Insights and Ahas:
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How to Get Over It and On With It:
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Takeaway:
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