This episode is about shifting our protective patterns and taking risks. Today\u2019s caller, Christine, lost her husband five years into their marriage. She wants to date again but is blocked by the fear of losing love again. We take a deep dive into the foundation of her fear and how she can choose to love again.
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[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode339]
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Love is risky. Loving is easily the riskiest thing we do, whether it is loving our partners, animals, friends, or children. Love is risky because if we lose it is devastating. Our hearts want to close because the risk is difficult but when we close our hearts we miss out on the opportunity to love more. There is no quota on how much we can love in our lifetime. Or, how many loves we can have. Love is infinite. To deprive ourselves of ever-expanding love is riskier than losing again.
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Shame grows on the things we keep in the dark but when we speak and bring things into the light it allows us to be held with love and compassion. That is how we soften judgment and allow intimacy in again.
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Diving deep is valuable. Anyone who says they are too damaged but is actively working on themselves isn\u2019t damaged. We are only \u201cdamaged\u201d if we go into victim and never do anything to pull ourselves out. The only way to get protective parts to shift is to let them know that you are going to work with them to protect yourself in a different way.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
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Christine\u2019s Question:
Christine would like to start dating and would like guidance on how to move past the resistance she feels towards it.
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Christine\u2019s Key Insights and Ahas:
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How to Get Over It and On With It:
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