This episode is about the dangers of sweeping things under the rug in relationships. Today\u2019s caller, Angela, is looking for clarity about why she is frustrated and triggered in her family relationships. We discuss ways she can speak her truth with love, use her voice, and stand in her power in her relationships and her life. She brushes things under the rug. If you identify with being a people pleaser, someone who prefers to avoid conflict, or shrug things off when they happen but internalize it later this is a great session for you.
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[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode333]
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When we don\u2019t stand in our power in our lives, we can\u2019t stand in our power in relationships. Standing in our power can also be said as standing in our empowerment. Sometimes the word power can sound oppressive as if we are not being compassionate, or being selfish. But that is not really what standing in our empowerment means. It\u2019s about being in our truth.
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If your truth upsets someone, it is not your responsibility as long as you are not blaming them and are taking responsibility for your part, and communicating your thoughts in the most loving way you possibly can. Sometimes speaking our truth can hurt others but if it is done with honesty and love it can lead to growth or growth of a relationship. There is a way to deliver truth and love together. If you are delivering something that may be hard for someone to hear, do it with love.
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Standing in our empowerment also means not time traveling and being able to regulate our nervous system. There were times as children when we were disempowered or when we didn\u2019t have a voice that led to a pattern of disempowerment in our adulthood. When we are in our power, we are in the present, we are taking care of our inner child. Our nervous system isn\u2019t activated. We aren\u2019t in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.
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And, for HSPs or internalizers, big feelings and big reactivity can be scary. When big feelings come at us, they rattle our nervous system. HSPs often have intuitive gifts growing up but internalizing stuff and repressing relationship issues as adults can suppress intuitive gifts. The nervous system doesn\u2019t feel safe. We can\u2019t choose what we want to suppress and expect our intuitive gifts to open up and be expressed.
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When you suppress anything you suppress everything.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
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Angela\u2019s Question:
Angela is triggered by situations in her family and struggling in her relationships. She would like guidance on how to build harmony in her home.
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Angela\u2019s Key Insights and Ahas:
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How to Get Over It and On With It:
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Takeaways:
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