This episode is about setting healthy boundaries and speaking our truth. Today\u2019s caller, Nicole, grew up in an unhealthy family dynamic. Her grandmother didn\u2019t accept her family and tried to split them up. She wants to be at peace with the situation but has not yet dealt with her anger. During the holidays, if you are the one who is breaking generational patterns, you may be called selfish or righteous. It can be a difficult place to be put in. But, I encourage you to stand in your truth.
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[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode326]
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So many families use guilt and obligation to get people to do things. If you don\u2019t play into it then you may be told you are uncaring or disappointing. But, remember, guilt and obligation are not love. Just because you say no or have a boundary does not mean you do not love your family; it just means you are not playing into the unhealthy family dynamic.
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Love itself is unconditional. You can love your family and have compassion for them but relationships are not unconditional. You wouldn\u2019t stay in a relationship if the person lied, cheated, or took your money. And, just because someone is a blood relative doesn\u2019t give them the right to have a relationship with you if they are violating certain boundaries. We can all have loving boundaries and have compassion for people but not tolerate their behavior. I don\u2019t believe that just because someone has had a hard life and has been hurt, that they should have a get-out-of-jail-free card to mistreat other people.
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We don\u2019t have to let that into our lives. Just because someone has had a hard life it doesn\u2019t give them the right to make our life hard.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
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Nicole\u2019s Question:
Nicole is considering cutting her father\u2019s family out of her life and would like guidance on how to navigate through an unhealthy family dynamic.
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Nicole\u2019s Key Insights and Ahas:
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How to Get Over It and On With It:
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Takeaways:
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