EP 282: Feeling Enough No Matter What with Jessie
This call is about feeling safe and feeling enough. Today\u2019s caller, Jessie, has been struggling with childhood trauma and is self-soothing by buying things she doesn\u2019t need. Any of you who struggle with not-enoughness, or have been labeled as having ADD, or are not sure if you have dealt with your childhood trauma, this is a great episode for you.
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[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode282]
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The unconscious drives about 90-95% of our behavior. We come from our past trauma or our limiting beliefs until we reach a point where we are aware of it and choose and attract something differently.
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Often, people who struggle with low self-worth or of not-enoughness are constantly trying to compensate by doing, talking, and proving. They are not great at reaching out for support because there is a level of trauma that still is running the show. There comes a point when trauma becomes part of our learning and part of the things that helped us grow and part of the things that have evolved our soul but before it gets there it becomes the thing to create our reality until we shift it.
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For coaches and therapists, when you have a client who seems to dart around and doesn\u2019t land on one thing for very long, it indicates that they just don\u2019t feel safe, and feeling safe is everything.
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Remember, we attract at the level of our issues until we heal those and move into a different frequency.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
- Do you shop too much or have some kind of behavior you know is not healthy but you just can\u2019t stop yourself from doing it?
- Do you struggle with feeling not enough?
- Do you have a lot of childhood trauma or chaos you have done your best to cope with but don\u2019t know if you are totally free?
- Have you and do you accept all parts of yourself?
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Jessie\u2019s Question:
Jesse struggles with childhood trauma and not-enoughness. She wants to feel safe and enough.
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Jessie\u2019s Key Insights and Ahas:
- She buys things she feels will make her look a certain way.
- Her mother is overly critical.
- She self-soothes with shopping.
- She doesn\u2019t feel safe.
- She lost her brother and her dad early in life.
- She has been labeled as having ADD.
- She lived in fear as a child due to her dad\u2019s abusiveness.
- She has done talk therapy.
- She is overwhelmed when she has to do adult things.
- She feels alone.
- There was chaos in her childhood.
- Her nervous system is delicate.
- She is trying to handle too much at once.
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How to Get Over It and On With It:
- Grieve the relationship she hasn\u2019t had.
- Invoke the loving mother inside herself.
- Stop judging herself for doing something she is trying to transform.
- Stop dating for a while.
- Find a source for trauma or somatic therapy with whom she feels safe.
- Understand there is nothing wrong with her.
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Takeaways For You:
- Ask your body, which is connected to your inner child, what it needs?
- If you are a parent, one of the best things you can do is do your own work. Invest in yourself. If you are a great parent to your inner child, you will be a better parent to your own child.
- Join the inner child workshop.
- Seek out support and get help.
- Sign up for the group call or join the Inner Child Workshop.
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Resources:
Christine Hassler \u2014 Join the Free Over It and On With It Community
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
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