EP 279: Moving from Unhealthy to Healthy Relationships with Elizabeth
This call is about breaking out of patterns and unhealthy relationships. Elizabeth calls in asking for daily mantras, actions, and tools to help her feel worthy of a loving relationship. She is struggling with enoughness. She wants to get over a \u201ctoxic\u201d relationship from her past and truly embrace, rather than sabotage, the healthy relationship she is in now. We get to the fundamental ouch or significant life event that created the misunderstanding that perpetuates her feelings of not being enough.
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[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode279]
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The feeling of not-enoughness is a major human problem. Eventually, we will evolve out of this not-enoughness thinking and raise children differently so we all don\u2019t have to have this major human epidemic. Know that by listening to this show, doing inner work, and feeding yourself the truth, you are doing your part to evolve human consciousness.
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Nothing outside of you can fulfill you and nothing external comes to you until you truly know that you are worthy and enough. That being said, we live in an interdependent world. And, although we cannot look to the outside world to make us happy, it is important to feel connected to others and attract and nurture healthy relationships, no matter where we are in our journey.
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The brain may confuse familiarity with love because it was wired from an early age to make love an equation. Many learn that if they act a certain way they will get love. Conditional love can feel familiar. But, worthiness is not conditional.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
- Do you struggle with not feeling enough?
- Have you ever had a \u201ctoxic\u201d relationship?
- Do you doubt that the people in your life really love you and see you? Do you fear that you will not measure up in some way?
- Is there a fierce inner critic that lives inside your head? And, even though you know you should be nicer to yourself, you can\u2019t seem to change your self-talk?
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Elizabeth\u2019s Question:
Elizabeth is searching for some daily mantras or actions that will make her feel enough and worthy.
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Elizabeth\u2019s Key Insights and Ahas:
- She is having difficulty connecting her intellect with her heart.
- She feels not enough and that her life is pointless.
- She verbalizes the chaos she feels in her mind.
- She was in an eight-year \u201ctoxic\u201d relationship.
- She has \u201clove\u201d attached to feeling a certain way.
- She has trouble quieting her inner critic.
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How to Get Over It and On With It:
- Be in the present moment and feel her feelings.
- Stop and breathe when her mind starts racing.
- Realize nothing is wrong with her.
- Forgive herself for confusing familiarity with love.
- Give her inner critic a new job description.
- Practice release writing when her inner critic is bratty.
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Takeaways For You:
- If you struggle with not-enoughness, when you feel it coming on, stop and think that you are hungry for the truth. And then, feed yourself some truth.
- Watch your language and watch what you are affirming.
- Slow down! Drop in and breathe.
- Give things you want to shift a new job description and a new role.
- If you want some additional help join my Personal Mastery Course.\xa0
- Join us for the Be the Queen program.
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Resources:
Christine Hassler \u2014 Join the Free Over It and On With It Community
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
Assist@ChristineHassler.com
Jill@ChristineHassler.com \u2014 For information on any of my services.
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