This episode is about issue-based relationships. Today\u2019s caller, Rachel, has been in a relationship for 6 years, and for most of that time she has been uneasy and lonely. She says she doesn\u2019t know if she should leave the relationship. But as you will hear in the call, Rachel knew the answer to her question before she even asked it. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode81] More often than not, the issue that comes up in our romantic relationships has to do with our parents. Whatever we craved but didn\u2019t get from our mother or father, is what we tend to look for in a mate. And, until you heal your core issues, you will continue to seek out approval or attention from your parents, in your romantic relationships. During the call, it was clear to me Rachel was in an issue-based relationship. Issue-based relationships have a lot of chemistry, and the couple is super-attracted to each other. The physical part of the relationship, especially the making up, hooks you in. One of the reasons you are attracted to the other person is because your issues dovetail. The beautiful thing about issue-based relationships is they are learning opportunities. They bring unresolved issues to the surface, which makes them easier to identify and heal. It is time to be honest with yourself about the kind of person you are attracted to. Are you playing out unresolved issues from your past in your current relationships? I recommended Rachel join my Inner Circle Community to give her a support system, and a place where she can openly share. It is truly a place where you can invest in yourself. \xa0 Consider/Ask Yourself: \u25cf Whose love, attention, or approval did you crave the most as a child?\xa0 How has that played out in your relationships? \u25cf Are you in a relationship you are questioning? \u25cf Do you know you should be single, but you are frightened by the thought of it? \u25cf Is your connection with a higher power something you would like to deepen? \xa0 Rachel's Question: Rachel wants to know if she should stick with a relationship she feels uneasy and lonely in. \xa0 Rachel's Key Insights and Ahas: \u25cf She\u2019s not sure what she loves about her partner. \u25cf As a child, she craved her father\u2019s approval. \u25cf She entered into the relationship without knowing who he was, because she wanted to be chosen. \u25cf She feels like she is falling apart. \u25cf She\u2019s unfamiliar with being by herself. \u25cf She needed permission to trust her intuition. \u25cf She feels it\u2019s time to fly. \xa0 How to Get Over It and On With It: \u25cf She should take a break from the relationship, and work on herself. \u25cf She should ask for help from her higher power. \u25cf She should take a year off from dating. \u25cf She should move out on her own. \u25cf She needs to get some outside support. \xa0 Assignments: \u25cf Think about whose love, attention, approval, and affection you craved the most, your mom or dad\u2019s? How are you still searching for it in other people? \u25cf Start journaling. A good sentence starter is \u2026 Dear Mom,\xa0 I wish you \u2026 or Dear Dad, I wish you \u2026 \u25cf Get individual therapy or coaching. \u25cf Ask for help. \u25cf Make yourself your number one priority. \u25cf Join my Inner Circle Community for support from those who WANT to support you. \xa0 Sponsor: Freshbooks: Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter \u201cOver It and On With It\u201d in the \u2018How did you hear about us?\u2019 section. \xa0 Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Over It and On With It Listener Survey Expectation Hangover Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@Christinehassler.com for Bali Retreat Information Bali Retreat Enrollment Page The Work by Byron Katie