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This episode is about being conflicted when making a choice. Today\u2019s caller, Anna, wants to leave her marriage but is unsure as to whether or not it is \u201cthe right thing to do.\u201d [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode78] There is no right or wrong when it comes to ending anything. Giving up or getting out of something just because it\u2019s hard or takes work is quitting, but opting out of something because it doesn\u2019t align with your core values is a self-honoring choice. So, how do you know if you are quitting or giving up too early, versus when something has reached its expiration date? I believe any relationship takes work, and can be transformed, but sometimes it doesn\u2019t serve either partner to stay together just because they made a commitment, if there is a drastic difference in values and vision. And, having guilt is useless. We feel guilty when we judge ourselves for doing something \u201cbad or wrong,\u201d and we think to suffer through the feeling of guilt somehow makes it better. If you are not married yet, my advice is to wait to marry until you are in a place where you are not looking for someone to fill a void or to meet a need, but rather someone to share your life with. Trusting ourselves is important. If you want to live in integrity, you have to have self-trust. You can learn ways to trust yourself in my Inner Circle private membership community. Retreat Information \u2014 Bali is a place of healing. I have been visiting for 10 years, so my retreats offer an authentic Balinese experience, in addition to the retreat work. Enrollment is now open for the next Bali Retreat in September. If you have objections, but you really want to do it. Don\u2019t let excuses stop you. Contact Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up. Consider/Ask Yourself: \u25cf Are you in a situation that has reached its expiration date? \u25cf Are you paying more attention to the opinions of others, rather than your own voice? \u25cf Have you left a situation, but feel tremendous guilt about it? \u25cf Do you tend to jump from relationship to relationship, believing that it will be different? \xa0 Anna's Question: Anna wants to be sure she is not making a decision to leave her marriage from a place of fear. \xa0 Anna's Key Insights and Ahas: \u25cf She doesn\u2019t need someone to make her feel safe anymore. \u25cf She doesn\u2019t want her marriage to work out. \u25cf She doesn\u2019t know how to deal with the guilt of leaving. \u25cf She needs to take ownership of her feelings. \u25cf She felt she couldn\u2019t trust her own voice. \xa0 How to Get Over It and On With It: \u25cf She should acknowledge and appreciate everything her husband has done for her. \u25cf She should use listen to her inner voice and find her own truth. \u25cf She needs to forgive herself for buying into the misunderstanding that she was a bad person. \u25cf She should be clear about why she is leaving, and honor it by being a partner to herself. \xa0 Takeaways: \u25cf If you are trying to stick it out in a situation out of pride, fear, or worry about what others will think, be honest with yourself, and make a self-honoring choice. \u25cf Reach out to people who support you and can give you spiritual altitude. \u25cf Make a list of all the qualities you want in a partner, and become all of those things. \u25cf Find yourself during my retreat in Bali. \xa0 Sponsor: Freshbooks: Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter \u201cOver It and On With It\u201d in the \u2018How did you hear about us?\u2019 section. \xa0 Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@Christinehassler.com for Bali Retreat Information Marie Forleo\u2019s B-School