75: Removing Blocks to Being in a Relationship with Leila
Today\u2019s episode is about manifesting a relationship. Leila has been impacted by her father\u2019s happiness, or lack of it, much more than she realizes. She would like guidance on how to remove any blocks she has formed. [For show notes go here: http://christinehassler.com/episode75] As you heard in the call, Leila\u2019s true inspiration for calling in was the desire to be in a loving relationship, and to understand why she wasn\u2019t attracting the kind of relationship she wants in her life. Programming from our past can impact us more than we are aware. In Leila\u2019s case, she didn\u2019t realize her father\u2019s apathy towards his own life affected her. As a child, she felt like he wasn\u2019t excited to be with her, and she felt not chosen and not fully seen. She longed for a connection with her father. We can only give the love we give ourselves. A parent\u2019s impact on us is often more obvious when they have been abusive or suffer from an addiction. It\u2019s important to look at the more subtle things that may be affecting you. Leila also didn\u2019t want to take on the responsibility of fixing someone or making them happy. She felt taking on a relationship would be a heavy weight and a burden, and she would be responsible for making the man happy. It\u2019s important to note that the role of a romantic partner and role of a parent are two very different things. Listen to my Coaches Corner with Marie Forleo of B-School. B-School is an online business school that covers everything you need to know to start your own business, plus I am offering bonuses because I believe in the program so much. I am offering four live group coaching calls, a guided meditation and visualization for each module and some new surprises for 2017! Email Jill@christinehassler.com. And Andrea Owen from my favorite podcast, Your Kick Ass Life is offering her e-book and audio, How the Crap Talk in Your Head is Making You Crazy and 3 Ways to Change It, for free if you text \u2018selftalk\u2019 to 444999. \xa0 Consider/Ask Yourself: \u25cf How has your parents\u2019 overall level of happiness affected your level of happiness? \xa0 Leila's Question: Leila would like to more deeply understand her feelings surrounding her father\u2019s work, to make sense of why she has difficulty with committed relationships. \xa0 Leila's Key Insights and Ahas: \u25cf She picked up her father\u2019s shame about his job. \u25cf She doesn\u2019t share details of her life with her father. \u25cf She never felt important to her dad. \u25cf It is not her job to fix her dad. \u25cf She is looking to fill a void. \u25cf She feels an over-responsibility towards men. \xa0 How to Get Over It and On With It: \u25cf Make a list of what she wanted from her dad, and forgive him for not being able to give her those things. \u25cf It is time for her to get a clear idea of what she wants from a romantic relationship. \u25cf She should step into her divine masculine energy and give herself the validation, appreciation, and encouragement she longed for from her dad. \u25cf She should let go of the belief she has a block towards being in a relationship. \u25cf She needs to break the pattern of believing she needs to fix anyone. \xa0 Assignments: \u25cf Look at beliefs or ways of being you have taken on from your parents, and write a letter to them giving those things back. Rip it up or burn it, afterward. Do a visualization of you giving unwanted fears, judgments, or limiting beliefs you acquired from your parents back to them with love and forgiveness. \u25cf If you want to attract a romantic relationship or upgrade the one you have, have a clear picture of what you want and what you have to give. \u25cf Let go of the belief of a relationship block, or you are doing something wrong, and get excited about any investment you make in yourself in a way of giving to your future partner and family. \u25cf If you want to make a change in your career, or take your business to the next level, look into B-School. \xa0 Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Assist@ChristineHassler.com \u2014 Send your questions to Christine, to be answered on Coaches Corner. Marie Forleo\u2019s B-School Your Kick Ass Life Podcast