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Today\u2019s episode is about breakups. I coach Jackie through what she calls an earth shattering, heartbreaking breakup, but the lessons that surface during the call can be applied to any type of Expectation Hangover. After a breakup, our hearts hurt, we feel grief, and we miss the person we ended the relationship with. The way to get out of grief is not to obsess over your ex, beat yourself up, or go out looking for someone else. The way through the grief is to milk it for all it\u2019s worth, and to see what it is bringing up for you to heal. In Jackie\u2019s case, her breakup is an opportunity to reframe old beliefs she had around betrayal. She continued to collect evidence for the story she believed from her childhood. Jackie was basically dating her dad. She was trying to get the love, attention and approval from her boyfriend that she never received from her dad. Remember, whatever you are going through, no matter how challenging it is, remember it is happening for you, not to you. We can get stuck in the loop of pain if we are just looking at the current situation. Don\u2019t think a relationship was a failure just because it ended. Some relationships have an expiration limit. Look for the lessons the relationship is there to teach you. Look for the reasons you brought the person into your life in the first place. \xa0 If your intention for the new year is to connect with a community of like-minded people and follow through with your meditation goals, joining my Inner Circle will assist you with both. The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my customized, guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com with any questions you may have. \xa0 Consider/Ask Yourself: \u25cf If you are going through a breakup, are you willing to see the pain as a catalyst for growth? \u25cf Are there breakups from your past you got through, but never really got over? \u25cf Could old wounds be impacting the people you are attracting to a relationship? \u25cf Is there someone you know is bad for you to be in a relationship with, but you find yourself going back for more? \xa0 Jackie's Question: After a recent breakup, Jackie would like to know how she can move past a relationship that was bad for her. \xa0 Jackie's Key Insights and Ahas: \u25cf She feels people are deceptive and tricky. \u25cf She felt lucky her ex chose her. \u25cf She played small around her ex. \u25cf She feels like it\u2019s unsafe to be her, and she wasn\u2019t good enough. \u25cf She collected evidence to confirm her long-held beliefs. \u25cf She longed for attention from her dad. \xa0 How to Get Over It and On With It: \u25cf She should ask herself what she is learning, and why she drew this person to her. \u25cf She should release the judgment that being vulnerable makes her messy or weak. \u25cf She needs to confront the truth that she was the daughter of an alcoholic. \u25cf She should go back and communicate to little Jackie. \u25cf She should find a connection with the divine masculine. \u25cf Write out a reality check letter to herself. \u25cf She should attend My Signature Retreat in March 2017. \xa0 Assignments: \u25cf Read and watch my blog and Vlog about How to Get Over a Breakup. \u25cf Read my book Expectation Hangover. \u25cf Take an inventory of your previous breakups, to see if you are repeating patterns in current relationships. \u25cf Try to attend the ladies only Signature Retreat this March. \xa0 Sponsor: Freshbooks: Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter \u201cOver It and On With It\u201d in the \u2018How did you hear about us?\u2019 section. \xa0 Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Assist@ChristineHassler.com - Send your questions to be answered on Coaches Corner. \xa0 Christine\u2019s Books \u25cf Expectation Hangover \u25cf 20 Something. 20 Everything