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Today\u2019s caller, Emma, is seeking guidance after a breakup. She would like to move forward with building her business but finds herself battling with self-doubt and procrastination. Emma is taking ownership of the issue and has a high-level of self-awareness about it, but she needs to uncover what is holding her back.\xa0 When we ask ourselves the question \u201cwhat am I learning from this situation?\u201d instead of \u201cwhy did it happen to me?\u201d we unlock something which is critical to our growth and healing. When a relationship ends, we are never 100% victims. We need to take 100% responsibility for the 50% which is our part. That said, we must do so without self-judgment or blame. We must accept we did the best we could with what we had at the time, and we now have an opportunity to do better moving forward. In future relationships, Emma has the opportunity to be more intimate. She was playing out the same patterns of withholding and people pleasing in her business, as she did in her marriage. Instead of being vulnerable she felt ashamed of sharing what was really going on in her life. People crave intimacy. Especially those who love us, care about us or want to get to know us. They want to feel like they are getting the real person. It\u2019s hard to love someone who is wearing a mask or people pleasing all the time because we never know how they really feel. If you withhold of yourself through people pleasing, perfection or because you don\u2019t trust people, it is time to examine that aspect of yourself. Emotional suppression holds energy back. Forgiveness can only begin after we bring acceptance and compassion to our feelings. We are unique but in many ways we are similar. We also have core pains and patterns that hold us back and once we move and shift those, we can move the needle in other parts of our lives. I address core pains and patterns in my Over It and On With It Mastery Course. My personal mastery coaching course, Over It and On With It, is now open for registration until October 20th. The 6-week course includes a 90-minute call every other week, worksheets, guided meditations and more. This course is the best of my spiritual practices and practical tips. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Mastery to register. Allow me to give you the support you need. \xa0 Consider/Ask Yourself: \u25cf Are you a procrastinator? \u25cf Have you gone through a breakup and blame yourself or the other person? \u25cf Do you relate to being a people pleaser? \u25cf Is intimacy challenging for you? \u25cf Would you like to teach your children something you wish you had learned as a child? \xa0 Emma's Question: Emma would like strategies on how to move forward after her breakup. \xa0 Emma's Key Insights and Aha\u2019s: \u25cf She feels as if she wasn\u2019t enough in her relationship. \u25cf She is a people pleaser. \u25cf She doesn\u2019t trust herself. \u25cf She suppresses her emotions. \u25cf She did the best she could with the tools she had at the time. \u25cf She punishes herself for going after what she wants. \u25cf She needs to get eliminate the belief she needs to be perfect to teach forgiveness. \xa0 How to Get Over It and On With It: \u25cf She needs to welcome the emotional aspect of her feelings. \u25cf She should do forgiveness work around her self-blame. \u25cf She should be compassionate towards herself to move into acceptance. \u25cf She can empower her children with the tools she didn\u2019t have. \u25cf She needs to believe she deserves her dreams. \u25cf She should create a meditation course for others to help herself heal. \xa0 Assignments and Takeaways: \u25cf Write a letter to yourself or another person without sending it. It will help move the energy so it can be healed. \u25cf Take a look at your life and see where you are withholding, not being honest, or people pleasing, and channel the energy to create something fun. \u25cf Empower your children with the tools and knowledge you wish you would have had. \xa0 Resources: Christine Hassler How to Make Change Happen and stick! FREE Webinar Valid until 10-20-2016 Over It and On With It Personal Mastery Coaching Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com