49: Give Yourself Permission to Go After Your Dreams with Emily

Published: Aug. 17, 2016, 12:24 p.m.

It really is so important to give ourselves permission to go after what we want to do. For example, I recently gave myself permission to go on a trip to Colombia with the caveat that I would work while I was there. When I ran into wifi issues and couldn\u2019t communicate with my team I had a bit of an Expectation Hangover. So, I decided that instead of being frustrated about it, I would move into acceptance and give myself permission to take some time off. When I fight for my will over thy will I almost always end up getting frustrated. Emily is normally a driven and passionate person. However, she called in because she is feeling a bit lackluster lately.\xa0 She\u2019s done a lot of personal development work, but can\u2019t seem to find her mojo to implement the new things she would like in her life. She\u2019s been waiting for something to give her permission to act. It\u2019s important for her to start coming up with all the reasons why she can do something, instead of making up excuses about why she can\u2019t. Everything begins with just one step. In my book, Expectation Hangover, I call this Proactive Surrender. It\u2019s about taking one step with intention and involvement and then allowing for feedback. To co-create is about being in flow with the universe and letting go of attachments of control and planning. Be open to how and where the universe wants to lead you. Also, there are a lot of people who get stuck in the personal awareness trap. People who read a lot of books, listen to podcasts, and become very aware but things don\u2019t ever seem to shift for them. If you find yourself in the awareness trap you must start taking action. Coach's Tip - When working with your clients be mindful of having them speak in \u201cI\u201d language rather than in the second person because when we speak in the second person we disassociate and we don\u2019t own what we are saying. It\u2019s important to bring clients back to using \u201cI\u201d language without making them feel wrong. I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. \xa0 Consider/Ask Yourself: \u25cf Are you feeling a bit lackluster? Would you like to feel more driven or inspired? \u25cf Do you need to give yourself permission to do something or are you waiting for a permission slip? \u25cf Have you made your human desires bad? Are you trying to get rid of your ego? \u25cf Do you have a heartfelt desire but can\u2019t seem to take the first step? \xa0 Emily's Question: Emily who is normally driven and passionate finds herself feeling a bit lackluster and lost. She is feeling symptoms of the Imposter syndrome and may be in a personal awareness trap. She would like to know how to get inspired. \xa0 Emily's Key Insights and Aha\u2019s: \u25cf Her ego isn\u2019t all bad \u25cf She needs to listen to her voice of inspiration \u25cf She doesn\u2019t need to be an expert to get started \u25cf She has an ability to build rapport with people \xa0 How to get over it and on with it: \u25cf She should take the first step and listen to her seed of inspiration \u25cf Realize there is no point to anything \u25cf She needs to step into her gifts and take action \u25cf She needs to own her feelings and use \u201cI\u201d language \u25cf Find her internal qualities that mirror traits she admires in other people \xa0 Assignments and Takeaways: \u25cf Take action and allow opportunities to integrate into all of your self-health programs. \xa0 \xa0 \u25cf Give yourself a permission slip to go after what you want. Remember, it begins with by taking one step. \u25cf Don\u2019t wait for opportunities to come to you. Reach out to the people you want to connect with. \u25cf If you relate to the \u201cImposter Syndrome\u201d write out all the amazing things about you and your gifts and talents. \xa0 Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link. Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. \xa0 Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @chrishassler on Snapchat @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Coaches Corner with Julie Elizabeth Day