30: The Fear of Being Alone: How to Get Over It!
There is a difference between being alone and feeling the pain of loneliness. We do not have to suffer from the pain of loneliness if we are enjoying a connected relationship with our self and a higher power. We are never really alone, and the illusion of the separation of God, higher power source or universe, is one of the core misunderstandings we are all here to overcome. If we tell ourselves things like \u201cI\u2019m alone, I hate being by myself, something must be wrong with me, I really need to be with other people\u201d, then, of course we feel the pain of loneliness. It\u2019s very human to want to be connected and to make sure we are getting our soul food by spending time with people we love. Feeling isolated or disconnected is incredibly hard. But sometimes it is the pain of loneliness that inspires us to do the work to nurture a better relationship with our self, or to create or deepen a spiritual connection.\xa0 \xa0 This is exactly what is on the soul agenda for today\u2019s caller, Christina. Her question initially is about the assumptions she\u2019s making that are sabotaging her relationship, but her core issue is fear of being alone. She has a track record of being in toxic relationships or relationships she truly doesn\u2019t want to be in just because it was better than being on her own. Remember you are never truly alone. You are always connected to infinite and unconditional love from God. I invite all of you to join me September 16-22 for my retreat in magical Bali which\xa0 will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in Los Angeles in July for my signature retreat. \xa0 Consider/Ask Yourself: \u25cf Is your fear of being alone so considerable that you jump from relationship to relationship? \u25cf Do you hesitate to do things alone? \u25cf Are you terrified you will end up old and alone? \u25cf Do you only feel safe when you are with another person? \u25cf Are you longing for a deeper connection to yourself and a higher power so you do not have to experience the pain of loneliness or separation? \xa0 Christina\u2019s Question: Christina feels she is sabotaging her relationship by assuming this partner will do the same things as her previous partner. \xa0 Christina\u2019s Key Insights and Aha\u2019s: \u25cf She panics when she thinks of being alone \u25cf She is trying to learn how to be in a relationship with herself \u25cf She grew up with a fear of losing the people she loved \u25cf She settles in relationships to keep herself from being alone \xa0 How to get over it and on with it: \u25cf Redefine what being alone is \u25cf Create a feeling of safety without having someone else there \u25cf Have honest communication with her partner about taking a break \u25cf Bring a spiritual practice into her life \u25cf Apply her own calming tactics into her own life \xa0 Tools and Takeaways: \u25cf Understand your default pattern when you feel lonely. What can you tell yourself instead of going into your default pattern?\xa0 \u25cf Think of someone you speak highly of and then talk about yourself the same way. You deserve to be the recipient of loving, self-talk. \u25cf Cultivate a spiritual practice. \u25cf Make connections with soul friends and your soul family. \xa0 Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain). \xa0 Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com