07: How breakups and endings lead to breakthroughs
Do you know that every challenge you face presents an amazing opportunity for healing and growth? That is why I am so passionate about Expectation Hangovers - because they are doorways to transformation.
We do not want to relate to Expectation Hangovers as victims because it prevents us from leveraging the learnings! Disappointment happens FOR you, not TO you.
Expectation Hangovers teach us:
1. Control is an illusion
2. Our comfort zone is a trap
3. True fulfillment comes from inside
4. The Universe does not punish us
My call with Nadine is about overcoming the Expectation Hangover of a job loss and breakup We explore why we put pressure on ourselves to not make mistakes and how our past is able to influence us even though we may not recognize it.
Remember, if you point your compass towards spirituality and honor your feelings, you can use your soul\u2019s inner wisdom to learn to love and to heal yourself. The door of opportunity exists for you to heal and transform after you experience an Expectation Hangover.
Consider/Ask Yourself:
What am I learning?
What am I healing?
What is my outer experience teaching me about my inner reality?
Can I relate to putting a lot of pressure on myself?
Do I think there is something I need to do to be loved or worthy?
Do I have negative self-talk which perpetuates high expectations of myself?
Nadine\u2019s Question:
In February, Nadine was working her dream job and she had the perfect man. Now four months later, she finds herself in a new job she is not interested in and her man left.
Nadine\u2019s Key Insights and Aha\u2019s:
\u25cf She may be looking at herself as a home improvement project
\u25cf She engages in negative self-talk
\u25cf She has the same relationship over and over again
\u25cf Her childhood is not her fault
How to get over it and on with it:
\u25cf Ask your inner counselor what am I learning
\u25cf Ask yourself \u201cin order to be loved I need to\u201d
\u25cf What would you say to yourself as a child?
\u25cf Take a deep dive into your spiritual practice
Tools and Takeaways:
\u25cf Spend some time single and fall in love with yourself
\u25cf Write down \u201cIn order to be loved, I need\u201d and then finish the sentence
\u25cf Talk to your younger self and reassure them
\u25cf Practice self-care by nurturing yourself
\u25cf Allow yourself to feel your own emotions with compassion
\u25cf Understand you are not broken and become who you truly want to be
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