324: THE KEY TO YOUR HAPPINESS
b'"Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present." \\u2014Jim Rohn Have you ever said: My husband doesn\\u2019t make me happy anymore My wife doesn\\u2019t make me happy anymore I\\u2019m not happy in marriage This isn\\u2019t making me happy Don\\u2019t I deserve to be happy Where is my happiness Why can\\u2019t I be happy There is an epidemic... An epidemic of people who aren\\u2019t happy in their life, with their job and in their marriages. You have an expectation that your spouse and your marriage are supposed to make you happy all of the time. In our comparison happy culture (hello social media) you are constantly bombarded by images of people who you\\xa0perceive as better, prettier, happier and who have more. What you see is their good parts version -- compared to -- your everyday reality and the two are not matching up. This quest for to reach a state of happiness is driving a wedge in your\\xa0marriage. The expectation that your spouse is going to make you happy all the time, that your marriage is always going to be good, is unrealistic. You are dealing with another human being who is dealing with their own stuff. Besides... happiness is a feeling and feelings are fleeting. You\\xa0can be happy because it\\u2019s a sunny day. You\\xa0can be happy because your spouse\\xa0left you\\xa0a note. You\\xa0can be happy because the kids didn\\u2019t fight (that much) today. In each of these situations happiness is\\xa0dependent on another person, their\\xa0actions or outside circumstances. What happens when they don\\u2019t do those things... when it\\u2019s rainy, what do you\\xa0do? The days that you\\xa0don\\u2019t get a note from your spouse,\\xa0what do you do? The days that the kids fight, what do you\\xa0do? \\xa0 In this week\'s show Tony and Alisa talk about\\xa0the keys to unlocking happiness in you so it flows throughout your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR |\\xa0I Love You But I Don\'t Trust You\\xa0Live Training TRUST. Five letters that have so much power in your marriage. When trust is present, it feels like you can handle everything. When trust has been broken, you find yourself questioning everything. If you have ever said or thought, "I love you but I don\\u2019t trust you" the JOIN US for the "I Love You But I Don\'t Trust You Live Training" on May 19th, 2016. Contract of Reconciliation It\\u2019s Not All Good or All Bad Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices'