The Success Reality Check
When I set my mind on something, I go out and make it happen. I feel quite successful, and then I do it again. I did this with my real estate business and my one-on-one NLP breakthrough coaching.
Then, something happened.
I found myself feeling this undeniable urge to make a greater impact and reach a larger number of people. So I decided to take my in-person business online.
Only I didn’t know the online space. As far as the nuts of bolts of making this online business thing work, I was starting from scratch.
It looked easy enough, though. If I got a website up, people would start flocking to it and I’d book clients right there on my website, right?
Well, that wasn’t my experience — at all. Hardly anyone noticed my website at first.
The high-rollers, and online business big-names, those who have been hugely successful online, make it look easy because they’ve already put in the time to figure out the nuts and bolts.
But when you’re just starting, not only do you not know the nuts and bolts, you don’t have the neurological container for this new phase. No “blueprint” or “strategy” is going to build the neurological container for you.
This is why when you hear about overnight success — it’s seldom truly that. The difficult ground-breaking work happens when no one else is looking.
So, what do you do when you’re craving more soul-filling work that requires a new container?
Here are three mindset shifts to get started:
- Recognize that success takes time.
- Build your neurological container by working on your mindset — a mindset that you’re able to learn what you need to know, that you can be consistent, successful, and you have something of value to share.
- Be prepared to deal with the neurological boundary of your comfort zone. When you’re about to break out of where you’ve been, it’s going to feel difficult and uncomfortable (this is a good thing!)
When my students talk about how challenging and long the road to success can be, I reply, “And so what?”. This is a good time to acknowledge that Yes, it’s hard, and ask yourself, how much you want this thing you want.
I don’t mean to sound unkind, I just want to shake them up a bit. I want my students to look at all that happens along the way to their success. You get to work at something you love and believe in. You become a better version of yourself. And you and your dreams are worth it.
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