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\\nWhat is this thing called LOVE \\u2026 really all about?
\\nHow do you know when you\\u2019re being genuinely loving \\u2026 versus just being an arrogant self-righteous ass?\\xa0
\\nAlso, do men, CAN men, actually have NEEDS in a relationship? If so, why do we so often fail to own them?
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\\nIn the last few years, Preston Smiles\\u2019 global presence has exploded, as both he and his wife, Alexi Panos, have become social media darling superstars thanks to the vibrant and colorful messages of love and healing they share with millions of people all over the world through their inspiring books, workshops, videos, and more.
\\nAlthough we\\u2019ve met a number of times \\u2013 actually, my fiance, Silvy Khoucasian, knew Preston personally long before she and I met \\u2013 this is the first time we\\u2019ve been able to have a substantial conversation.
\\nAnd I wanted to have a substantial conversation and get REAL with Preston about what is LOVE. After all, he\\u2019s a self-proclaimed “Messenger of Love.”
\\nBut I\\u2019ve personally had a few awful experiences with other so-called “messengers of love,” and seen firsthand it\\u2019s way too easy to justify treating people terribly when you believe what you\\u2019re doing, you\\u2019re doing out of love.
\\nLike a parent who beats their child thinking it\\u2019s for the kid\\u2019s own good. Or a partner who criticizes you thinking they\\u2019re just trying to make you a better person.
\\nWhere\\u2019s the distinction between love and abuse?
\\nSo Preston and I talk about what it looks like to LIVE with a big-view spiritual perspective of oneness and connection and everything is Love \\u2026 while simultaneously understanding and embracing our HUMANNESS, which means recognizing how we can hurt people, and some things we can do to prevent ourselves from merely perpetuating more hurt and pain.
\\nActually, I really appreciate Preston\\u2019s candor in today\\u2019s conversation about how he struggles to be present with his partner when his brain has just flipped into fight or flight mode \\u2013 in his case fight mode \\u2013 when he\\u2019s just heard some perceived criticism of his character.
\\nThat\\u2019s a big one for me, too, and if you\\u2019ve ever experienced that, definitely listen to the end of this podcast. Because we give you some practices you can do to get yourself out of that threat mode, so fights end faster, and you get back to simply LOVING each other again.
\\nAnd stay tuned for Preston\\u2019s 5 Key Takeaways at the end. I especially liked the key practice he recommends for the next 7 days.
\\nAlright \\u2026 let\\u2019s dive
\\nSHOW NOTES
\\n12:31 ~ What does \\u201cAmplifying Love\\u201d mean?
\\n15:06 ~ Knowing when you are being a presence of love (vs. an arrogant ass)
\\n17:55 ~ The distinction between the spiritual and human aspects of love
\\n19:58 ~ Addressing men\\u2019s programming
\\n22:17 ~ Depictions of relationship in media
\\n22:41 ~ \\u201cPower with\\u201d versus \\u201cpower over\\u201d
\\n26:24 ~ Being in fight-or-flight mode and how to handle it
\\n32:06 ~ Changing your state
\\n37:16 ~ Considering life\\u2019s seasons in relationships
\\n40:06 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today
\\n41:54 ~ \\u201c5 KEY TAKEWAYS\\u201d FINALE
\\n42:33 ~ KEY INSIGHT:
\\nSuccess is sequential not simultaneous
\\n44:42 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM:
\\nMichael Beckwith (Author, Minister)
\\nBob Marley (Musician)
\\nPreston Smiles
\\n45:51 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast):
\\n\\u201cThe One Thing\\u201d by Gary Keller (Book)
\\n\\u201cConversations with God\\u201d (Book One, Two, and Three) by Neale Donald Walsch (Book)
\\n\\u201cThe 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure\\u201d by Grant Cardone (Book)
\\nThe Bridge Experience (www.BridgeExperience.com) – Workshops presented by Preston Smiles and Alexi Panos
\\n47:12 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000):
\\nHiring an integrator (or an assistant … someone who can do all the businessy-things you don’t want to do!'