76. Everything You Love (You Will Lose) w/ Francis Weller

Published: March 24, 2022, 5:52 p.m.


\nDo you regularly turn away from the sorrows of the world?
\nAre you aware of the great cost to your vitality, your joy, by doing so?
\nWhy might it be important to regularly confront your own sorrows, even if you think you have none?
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\nIn this episode, my guest, Francis Weller, and I mine these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your life.
\nFrancis is the author of The Wild Edge of Sorrow, perhaps the book I recommend most these days.\xa0
\nI actually featured him in a recent podcast, and honestly, if I get my way, I\u2019m going to continue sharing our conversations in podcasts to come, like a\xa0 \u201cconversations with a mentor\u201d kinda thing. Because Francis Weller\u2019s work has touched something immense in me, personally, that I believe is also vitally important for our collective humanity at this time.\xa0
\nAnd I keep using that language when I speak about and with him, \u201csomething vast and immense in me,\u201d because I don\u2019t know how else to say it.\xa0
\nI would say he\u2019s written one of the most beautiful books on grief and sorrow that I\u2019ve ever read, but the truth is, it\u2019s just one of the most beautiful books I\u2019ve ever read.
\nAnd when we first spoke, the conversation which I shared in a recent episode, I felt as if he was helping me finally explore that vastness inside me that previously had been largely untapped. In this episode, I describe it like a vast cavern inside me that has been blocked off, obstructed, for most of my life,\xa0 that I didn\u2019t even know there was an entrance to, much less where to find it, and that his work on grief and sorrow is finally showing me the way, and how to unlock it.\xa0
\nI would have never guessed the key would be grief and sorrow.
\nDeath has largely spared me. So much so that I recently had a family member survive the near approach of death. And while I was naturally glad and relieved, I was shocked to find a part of me also angry. Not because I wanted this person to die, but because I have been dying to finally touch a lifetime of untouched grief.
\nSo, I bring you again, a profound and rich conversation with the very wise, Francis Weller.
\nIn this conversation we talk about the critical importance of regularly confronting sorrow \u2013 our own and the world\u2019s. We talk about creating regular grief and sorrow rituals, too, which I\u2019m personally eager to get started with. We talk about our ignorance in the face of grieving, and how we just don\u2019t know how to do it, or how to BE with someone when they are grieving, much less BE with our own grief.\xa0
\nWe talk about this and so much more.
\nAlso, I want you to know that Francis is hosting a 5-part online workshop soon on the 5 Gates of Grief. Which I highly recommend enrolling in. It\u2019s not expensive, and I\u2019m not being paid to promote this. I just believe in this work.\xa0
\nSo, take a deep breath, and stay present with Francis Weller and I, all the way through to the end of this episode of Men, This Way \u2026
\nAlright \u2026
\nLet\u2019s dive \u2026
\nRESOURCES
\nDuane Elgin’s Book: Choosing Earth: Humanity’s Great Transition to a Mature Planetary Civilization
\nFrancis Weller’s Book: The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief
\nFrancis’ Online Training: The 5 Gates of Grief Training @ Rowe Center
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