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\nHow can we reconcile old notions of chivalry with modern expectations of gender-equality?
\nCan gender-equality actually help MEN feel more free, too?
\nDo you really understand the (daily) privileges men have over women?
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\nIn this episode, my guest, Japanese author Shu Matsuo Post \u2026 and I mine these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your life.
\nShu Matsuo Post is the author of a new book titled, \u201cI Took Her Name.\u201d
\nShu is a bit of an anomaly on Men, This Way, because I didn\u2019t really know of him personally before inviting him on to the podcast. Usually, my guests are actual friends, or men I\u2019ve studied with for a time, who\u2019s work I\u2019ve already been following and learning from for some time. Shu is new to me. But if I\u2019m going to continue this podcast, and continue on my quest to discover the deeper wisdom that lives in the hearts of experienced men, then I\u2019ve got to push beyond my known zone and have conversations with men I don\u2019t know at all.\xa0
\nSo this episode is a first foray into that experience \u2026 and I\u2019m excited to welcome Shu Matsuo Post, all the way from Japan, to be my first of the sort. I first heard about Shu\u2019s book from his publicist \u2013 it\u2019s titled, \u201cI Took Her Name,\u201d and it\u2019s his personal story of taking his wife\u2019s last name after marriage, and in the context of a Japanese culture \u2013 really a world culture \u2013 that doesn\u2019t exactly hold that up as an option for men. Obviously the predominant cultural expectation remains that a woman will take her husband\u2019s last name. It\u2019s still a bit edgy and uncommon these days for two people to marry and both keep their own last names. Nevermind a man choosing to take his wife\u2019s last name. Still, when I first heard about Shu\u2019s book, honestly my first thought was, big deal! So what. He took his wife\u2019s last name. I grew up with two strong mothers (married to my two fathers) and, well, my step-mother never took my father\u2019s last name, and my step-father benefited greatly from my mom having his last name, because she was such a bad-ass that she actually had a building in Maryland, named after HER, for her humanitarian work \u2026 of course it carried HIS last name, even though it was her 35 years of service that put his last name on that building \u2026 ANYWAY \u2026 this ain\u2019t the sole focus of our conversation. Because what, at least to me, is far more interesting in Shu\u2019s story, is what he awakened to, what he learned, through a journey fraught with various challenges that women face all the time, yet few men ever do, that he could only experience by taking his wife\u2019s last name \u2026
\nSo, like all my episodes, our conversation wanders through a range of interesting territory, from a discovery of the privileges men actually do have over women in our daily lives, to modern questions around chivalry, such as how do you open a door for a woman without being accused of sexism, to the surprising experience of freedom that can occur for us men as we learn to embrace, and fight for, gender equality.
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