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Is relationship conflict your ongoing nemesis?
\nHave you ever been accused of not being sensitive?
\nDo you really understand empathy (and why it\u2019s essential)?
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\nIn this episode, my guest, Figs O’Sullivan, and I mine these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your life.
\n\u201cFiachre\u201d O’Sullivan \u2026 otherwise known as Figs \u2026 is the founder of Empathi (i) which is essentially a program, or a method, that teaches couples how to resolve conflict by way of learning empathy. Figs is a Husband and dad to two little ones, and \xa0a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in emotion focused therapy \u2026\xa0
\nNow, I learned of Figs\u2019 work actually through my partner, Silvy Khoucasian \u2026 she\u2019s been a big fan of his work for years, and has been telling for me for some time to have him on my show \u2026 well, like any proud, stubborn man, I decide who\u2019s on my show \u2026 and like many a proud, stubborn man, eventually I realized that my lady is right. When his team reached out to me not long ago, I decided to finally learn more about what he\u2019s up to, and I just finally knew immediately what she\u2019d been telling for years: Figs is a wise man doing important work to help couples navigate conflict by teaching them how to create connection in difficult moments.\xa0
\nI really enjoyed this conversation with Figs. In this episode we talk about conflict, about the myth of men\u2019s emotional sensitivity (that actually men are deeply sensitive); we talk a lot about empathy, why it matters, pathways to experiencing it, and how to create connection in moments where both partners are triggered and upset, and otherwise just unable to bridge their differences in a painful moment.\xa0
\nI hate to contribute to stereotype, but like so many Irishmen I\u2019ve met over the years, he\u2019s also just a great and funny story teller, and I think you\u2019re going to get a lot of both wisdom and laughter and enjoyment out of this episode.\xa0
\nAlright \u2026
\nLet\u2019s dive \u2026
\nSHOW NOTES
\n5.30 \u2013 Growing up between the terror of alcoholism and the need for safety and connection
\n13.00 \u2013 What is empathy?
\n16.00 \u2013 Allowing your different perspectives to make relationship even better\xa0
\n26.00 \u2013 Is it possible to never say something disrespectful to your partner?
\n28.50 \u2013 What people really need to have a better relationship
\n34:00 \u2013 What happens when a man hits bottom (he\u2019s finally willing to change)
\n35:00 \u2013 The real magic is in repairing disconnects, not preventing them
\n36:45 \u2013 The origins (and naturalness) of feeling abandoned
\n39:00 \u2013 Our brains are constantly evaluating, moment by moment, whether we\u2019re safe (or not)
\n44:20 \u2013 The importance of showing up for the most vulnerable parts of each other
\n46.30 \u2013 We should all bring our \u201ccrazy\u201d to our work
\n48:00 \u2013 Men, when given the right container and guidance, have incredible emotional wisdom
\n52:00 \u2013 What vulnerability REALLY looks like
\n5 KEY TAKEAWAYS
\n55:00 \u2013 Key Insight: Your vulnerability is your greatest strength. Whenever you\u2019re in a disconnected moment with your partner, you\u2019re in a systemic partner, not a you or them problem.\xa0
\n56:00 \u2013 Key Mentor: My Father, Gabor Mate
\n57:45 \u2013 Key Resource: The Blind Boy Podcast
\n59:45 \u2013 Key Investment: Front loader cargo bike
\n1:01:20 \u2013 Key Practice: Appreciation Exercise – Download Here
\nRESOURCES
\n“The Conflict Solution: Learning to Love Better” … get 50% off with coupon code “MENTHISWAY”
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