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\\nDo you ever feel emotionally \\u2026 stuck?
\\nEver say (think) you\\u2019re over something when you\\u2019re just not?
\\nCould so many of your so-called \\u201cproblems\\u201d actually resolve themselves if you could just BE with your feelings? (hint: yes)
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\\nI love what Joshua Wenner is up to in the world, in particular his work to help men heal from deep physical and emotional trauma.
\\nWhile he does a lot of things, one thing I want you to know is that he leads emotional resiliency trainings up in the mountains west of Los Angeles for first responders, like policeman and fireman, and you\\u2019ll hear some remarkable stories in this episode about what becomes possible when men start simply being willing to open up about the hard day they just had with spouses and children; how that can even save lives.
\\nDespite being exposed to death throughout his childhood and young adult years, including a stint in the National Guard during which he deployed to Iraq for Operation Iraqi Freedom, Josh\\u2019s real journey into grief and emotional literacy, or resiliency, really began after losing his brother in 2007 to addiction. Just three days after his brother had asked to come live with him, and he said \\u2018no\\u2019. He shares that story of what happened in this podcast. But that moment launched him into what has been a lifelong journey of grieving and healing and teaching men the same. He\\u2019s actually working on a documentary series called Grief to Grace, and the trailer is just electrifying, inspiring, heartwarming and touching. Go watch it!
\\nI\\u2019ve been able to spend some time with Joshua this last year in a variety of settings, including a men\\u2019s group called Man Cave Elite that we\\u2019re both part of, brought together by a mutual friend, Preston Smiles, who was also a guest back in the early days of this podcast.
\\nAnyways, I just really like Joshua. He\\u2019s easy to be around and clearly a deep soul who has been through a lot in life. Today we talk about men and loss, the ways we pretend and distract from our pain, the hidden costs of our suffering to both ourselves and our loved ones, and what we can do to begin healing every day from the everyday pains we suffer. So we can get our lives back and actually live with vitality, true contentment, and even joy. We both share some great practices that we do ourselves and we offer the people we work with to help process your pain in ways that are safe, constructive, and serve not just you but everyone around you. So definitely stay tuned for Joshua\\u2019s 5 Key Takeaway\\u2019s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way.
\\nAlright\\u2026
\\nLet\\u2019s dive\\u2026
\\nSHOW NOTES
\\n6:01 \\u2013 Disagreeing in Partnership and more on Joshua\\u2019s Grief to Grace series
\\n9:15 \\u2013 Joshua\\u2019s Forgiveness Ceremony (11 years running) and Grief Yoga
\\n13:34 \\u2013 Emotional Forgiveness
\\n17:01 \\u2013 The Metaphor of Emotional Loss to Physical Pain
\\n22:00 \\u2013 Sitting with Pain
\\n24:50 \\u2013 The Importance of Grieving and Joshua\\u2019s Journey
\\n30:00 \\u2013 Fixing vs. Accepting
\\n34:50 \\u2013 Not Moving on too Fast and Allowing Yourself to Feel Anger
\\n37:45 \\u2013 Awareness: Pain Not Shame
\\n40:15 \\u2013 Sitting with Your Feelings
\\n45:10 \\u2013 How Limiting One Emotion Suppresses the Rest
\\n48:22 \\u2013 Core Wounds
\\n53:45 \\u2013 Isolation and Loneliness ???? Building a Community of Men you can Trust
\\nJOSHUA’S 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS
\\n54:28 ~ KEY TAKEAWAY 1: Love your body the way it loves you
\\n55:41 ~ KEY TAKEAWAY 2: Mentor \\u2013 Ken Druck
\\n56:46 ~ KEY TAKEAWAY 3: Key Resource \\u2013 The King, Warrior, Magician and Lover by Robert Moore and Douglas Gi...'