28. Is Monogamy (Really) Natural? w/ Robert Kandell

Published: July 6, 2019, 11:59 p.m.


\nAre you still attracted to others when you\u2019re in a relationship?
\nDo you think non-monogamy might be easier, or more fulfilling, or just more \u2026 natural?
\nAre you being honest with your partner \u2013 or yourself \u2013 about your deepest sexual desires? (and should you be?)
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\nThis is an epic episode.
\nRobert is a wise man … and a dear friend of mine.\xa0
\nRobert is especially wise in the domain of intimacy and relationship, because he\u2019s been through it all.
\nHe\u2019s given himself to monogamy, polyamory, swinging, sex clubs, 3-somes, 4-somes, straight, bi, the whole orgy lifestyle \u2013 whatever the hell that is \u2026 and perhaps most interestingly, he was the business brains behind the ascent of One Taste, a multi-million dollar international organization, surely the world\u2019s largest, if not the world\u2019s ONLY, organization, that espouses the female orgasm as a gateway to humanity\u2019s conscious awakening \u2026 yes, you heard me right … the female orgasm is a gateway to humanity\u2019s awakening.
\nWe\u2019ll talk more about that, and Robert might say it or see it differently; but that was my interpretation when I first discovered One Taste, in California, of course, and both Robert and I share some fascinating stories about our experiences with One Taste, and its core practice, called \u201cOrgasmic Meditation\u201d \u2013 which, by the way, is a practice I recommend all couples learn about. I do NOT endorse participating in the One Taste community \u2013 and I\u2019ll share why in this podcast \u2013 but I do recommend the practice for couples who want to create more sensual connection and intimacy.\xa0
\nAnyway, Robert has immersed himself for many years in the world of sexual exploration, and there he\u2019s met every beast living in every human shadow: jealousy, rage, insecurity, self-doubt, shame \u2026 which is one of the things I love most about being around Robert: Because of his willingness to confront these demons, he\u2019s become a man who\u2019s presence exudes clarity, confidence, calm, and deep, genuine caring. You really feel that he\u2019s not hiding anything from you, and also that he doesn\u2019t need anything from you, not even validation, and yet you still get that he cares about you.
\nRobert just came out with a new book, appropriately titled, Unhidden: A Book For Men And Those Confused By Them \u2026 and in his lifetime of being a badass business leader and coach, he has taught over 10,000 students in 400 workshops, coaching sessions and lectures how to live an authentic, unHIDDEN life.
\nIn this episode, Robert and I have a spirited conversation on the question of monogamy. Is it natural? We talk about jealousy, and how it can be your best friend. We also talk about the challenges inherent in EVERY form of relationship you could possibly explore \u2026 and SO MUCH MORE!
\nBy the way, Robert has now chosen to be in a monogamous relationship \u2026 though probably not in the way you think. But I\u2019ll let him explain.
\nThis is a MUST listen episode for every man, and woman, who\u2019s ever been challenged by monogamy, or just by sexuality \u2026 which is most everyone! \u2026\xa0
\nDefinitely stay tuned all the way through till Robert\u2019s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way \u2026\xa0
\nAlright \u2026\xa0
\nLet\u2019s dive \u2026
\nSHOW NOTES
\n9:03 ~ Robert\u2019s first truthful conversation
\n15:47 ~ The start of One Taste
\n24:52 ~ Jealousy can be your best friend
\n28:09 ~ Is monogamy natural?
\n34:55 ~ Modern society, marriage, divorce, and women\u2019s rights
\n35:38 ~ What \u201cYou complete me\u201d really means for men
\n40:07 ~ Hiding the truth about our sexuality from our partners
\n53:22 ~ The importance of creating a space for truth in relationships between people constantly changing
\n56:22 ~ \u201c5 KEY TAKEWAYS\u201d FINALE
\n56:27 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Speaking the truth first to yourself,