17. Apologizing For Our Masculinity is Not What Makes Women (Or Anyone) Feel Safe w/ Mark Grainger

Published: April 17, 2019, 6:27 p.m.


\nAre you a man disconnected from your power?
\nHow can you be your full, wildly masculine self without apology (and without hurting anyone)?
\nAre you committed to going all in on your dreams \u2026 or are you half-assing it?
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\nMark Grainger is actually one of my coaches (yes, I have multiple!).
\nA few years ago, I went to an event Mark and his wife, Shannon, were hosting in the San Francisco Bay area to teach entrepreneurs how to speak powerfully on stage in ways that actually create more income.
\nAbout 30 minutes into this 3-day event, Mark told all us men to stand up and grab our balls. Which we did, with a certain giddy discomfort I would say. Mark then led us through a pledge \u2013 I don\u2019t remember the exact details \u2013 but essentially a pledge to fully own our desires, to not apologize for being men, and to ALSO be chivalrous and attuned to the women in the room. I loved it. The women loved it, too, except for one, who didn\u2019t love it at all, which we talk about in this episode.
\nThat weekend, I decided to become a VIP coaching client of Mark and Shannon\u2019s, and I paid them $20,000 to start coaching me in my business. In many ways thanks to their influence, I feel like I now actually have a business, whereas before all I had were ways to make money.
\nMark\u2019s background is in marketing and sales. A genius branding expert, he\u2019s executed over 450 branding and promotional campaigns as the advisor to Porsche, Harley Davidson, AFLAC, \xa0Marriott, and more.
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\nToday, he\u2019s helping heart-centered entrepreneurs who are committed to making a meaningful difference in the world create bigger impacts with their message.
\nI invited Mark onto the podcast to learn more about his journey as a man, what challenges he\u2019s faced on his entrepreneurial journey, and in his relationship with Shannon, with whom he\u2019s built a multi-million-dollar business.
\nOur conversation covered a wide range of essential topics, from the challenges many men face being raised by well-meaning moms who are angry at men, to where are we men supposed to put our power in today\u2019s world?
\nDefinitely stay tuned all the way through to his 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way
\nAlright \u2026
\nLet\u2019s dive …
\nSHOW NOTES
\n6:42 ~ Significant event in Mark\u2019s early life that played a fundamental role in shaping him
\n13:44 ~ How our wounds get in the way of communicating effectively
\n16:12 ~ Working with your partner
\n20:27 ~ \u201cCan the person who loves me do the talking\u201d
\n23:21 ~ You\u2019re not angry for the reasons you think you are
\n25:55 ~ \u201cMen stand up and grab your balls\u201d
\n37:49 ~ Mark\u2019s journey as an entrepreneur
\n40:32 ~ Acting despite being terrified
\n43:21 ~ Disempowering thoughts and beliefs
\n47:23 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today
\n51:26 ~ \u201c5 KEY TAKEWAYS\u201d FINALE
\n51:43 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Do the work
\n53:48 ~ KEY MENTOR: Bill Gould & Marianne Williamson
\n56:18 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): \u201cStealing Fire: How Silicon Valley, the Navy SEALs, and Maverick Scientists Are Revolutionizing the Way We Live and Work\u201d by Jamie Wheal and Steven Kotler (Book)
\n58:07 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Miss Jaiya\u2019s Erotic Blueprints
\n1:00:06 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Breath of Fire (Kundalini yoga practice)
\nOTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
\nFind Mark @ www.MyBigImpact.com