15. Why You Suck at Intimacy (and How To Do It Better) w/ Zat Baraka

Published: April 3, 2019, 7:32 p.m.

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\\nDo you struggle to be genuinely vulnerable?
\\nDid you know intimacy with self is required for true intimacy with others?
\\nWhat\\u2019s the connection between self-awareness and life (love) mastery?
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\\nZat Baraka is a dear friend of mine.
\\nI first met him about 9 years ago in Los Angeles before he was a renowned men\\u2019s coach. It\\u2019s been fascinating to see behind the scenes of his journey from being a man already engaged in a decades-long Buddhist spiritual practice, to a renowned teacher and coach helping men, in particular, get out of our heads and live more fully connected to our own bodies, our emotions, so that we may live more connected to other men, to our friends and families, to our partners \\u2026 to our lives.
\\nIn fact, that\\u2019s what I most admire and appreciate about Zat, and our friendship, is that no matter what\\u2019s coming up between us \\u2013 and we\\u2019ve had a few pretty intense moments of disagreement where I\\u2019ll be so bold as to say less wise men would have either killed each other or simply never spoken again \\u2013 but no matter what it is, we\\u2019re always able to own our own emotions, our own stories, or we often say, our own shit, before trying to resolve the details of the conflict \\u2026 and that mutual capacity has allowed our friendship, our respect and love for each other to consistently deepen.
\\nZat models this practice beautifully, which in my experience, is essential for ANY relationship \\u2013 intimate or otherwise \\u2013 to truly thrive.
\\nIn this episode, Zat and I explore what it really means to know yourself, in tangible, practical ways that actually make life \\u2013 and love \\u2013 better in most every way.
\\nDefinitely stay tuned Zat\\u2019s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of Men, This Way \\u2026
\\nAlright \\u2026 Let\\u2019s dive …
\\nSHOW NOTES
\\n5:06 ~ The reason for being honest about how we are feeling
\\n9:40 ~ Wisdom from parenting
\\n14:03 ~ A significant early experience that played a fundamental role in shaping Zat as a man
\\n17:45 ~ How early experiences shaped Zat\\u2019s challenges
\\n22:06 ~ Why taking radical responsibility or ownership matters
\\n26:22 ~ The best part about working with men
\\n36:54 ~ The most challenging aspect of working with men
\\n40:05 ~ The biggest challenge for men in intimate relationships
\\n42:39 ~ The biggest challenge facing men today
\\n45:46 ~ \\u201c5 KEY TAKEWAYS\\u201d FINALE
\\n45:50 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Embrace your shadow
\\n47:32 ~ KEY MENTOR: Pema Khandro Rinpoche. Tibetan Buddhist teacher, scholar and humanitarian. David Deida. Groundbreaking work in relationships
\\n48:49 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): \\u201cTo Be A Man: A Guide to True Masculine Power\\u201d by Robert Augustus Masters (Book)
\\n49:23 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Going on retreat with a teacher
\\n51:04 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Breathing practice, especially Zat\\u2019s Tantric Breathwork Meditation: Available at www.ZatBaraka.com/Mens-Toolbox – use complimentary code \\u201cbryan\\u201d
\\nOTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES
\\nFind Zat @ www.ZatBaraka.com
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