Published: Aug. 12, 2016, 7:51 a.m.
You can use conversational skills as a tool with which to build new connections, while avoiding awkward pauses and uncomfortable conversations. After all, making a good first impression is all about making others feel good when spending time with each of you. Great conversationalists are made, not born.
The following tips will help you make a positive impression every time:
- Don\u2019t rush through conversations.\xa0Take your time, and be sure to remember names and use them frequently during conversations.
- Show an interest in every person you meet.\xa0By showing an interest you are creating a favorable impression of yourself. People, even shy ones, like to talk about themselves, so let them.
- Be prepared.\xa0Before entering an event, take a couple minutes and think of at least three conversation topics. Remind yourself of what you may already know about fellow attendees. Their hobbies, activities or interests. If you happen to encounter an uncomfortable silence, these conversation points will always come in handy.
- Always maintain eye contact.\xa0Eye contact is an easy way to make others feel comfortable, important, and special.
- Act confident through your body language, even if you are not.\xa0Nervous body language {twisting your hair, slouching shoulders, constant hand rubbing} can make others uncomfortable and anxious. Try to be aware of your body language when interacting with others.
- Be a careful listener.\xa0By listening intently to what others are saying, you are not only making them feel important, but you can gather cues you need to keep the conversation going and bridge to new topics.
- Don\u2019t interrogate a conversational partner.\xa0Questions like: \u201cWhere are you from?\u201d \u201cAre you married?\u201d \u201cWhat do you do for a living?\u201d can stop a conversation before it ever really starts.
- Be respectful of the opinions of others.\xa0Not everyone agrees on things, and friendly disagreements can be a gateway to a great conversation. Offer your opinion of your favorite football team, the state of public education today, or the future of the space program. Be sure to follow up with \u201cWhat do you think?\u201d, or \u201cTell me your opinion.\u201d
- Have exit lines prepared.\xa0You will probably want to mingle with several people around the room.