When Stuff Doesn't Work... VARY!
She pulled hard against his grip, Jill then began to panic. \u201cThis guy is way too strong, and in order to break free I\u2019ll need to VARY my defense, and do something else.\u201d The large attacker was either drunk, or strung out, but following her into the restroom was not normal even for this club. A coupe of women hurried out, and yet neither one appeared interested in helping her. At least that\u2019s how it seemed. \u201cMaybe they think he\u2019s with me,\u201d Jill thought. \u201cEither way this was not going well.\u201d\nJill\u2019s voice got suddenly commanding and very loud, \u201cLet go of me. Now!\u201d His hands went for her throat, and as he pushed her up against the wall she brought her hands up to her head, releasing his grip by using the hard part of her head against the inside of his wrist. His violent forward leaning push, and the sudden release of his hands off her throat made him stumble forward into her eagerly awaiting strikes and knee dropping him to the tiled floor.\nWithin the hour cops were escorting Mr. Not-So-Very-Nice-Guy out the door. What worked was Jill\u2019s ability to VARY from one technique to the next. When her pulling away was ignored, and her strength was insufficient, she released his hands, and neutralized his unwelcome advances perhaps saving her own life in the process.\nIn self-defense scenarios we practice VARIED techniques over and over again. A common complaint of a novice student is, \u201cThis technique doesn\u2019t work. I tried it like three times!\u201d The predictable response form a master instructor is to apply another technique, or the same one again, in a different way, or to a different target, until something does work.\nEverything makes a difference! VARYING, attacks, speed, size difference, angles and strength require VARIANCE with every situation. Some techniques work better for some people, and others work better for others. Period.\nConflict VARIANCE parallels life. In LIFE DEFENSE we see that in everyday life. The tendency is at the first sight of failure, we get stuck. \u201cMy teen just did ABC and you told me to just do XYZ, and it didn\u2019t work! See, now I\u2019m stuck, I suck at parenting, and my teen is for sure going to end up strung out on drugs, pregnant, and on the streets. I told you so!\u201d\nOnce again the experienced master parent who\u2019s raised several children to adulthood might say, \u201cApply another technique, or the same one again in a different way.\u201d The calming voice of the experienced mentor assures you, and you VARY, and VARY again until something works.\nThe lesson is, to never give up. Because failure only comes when we give up\u2026.VARY!\nAllen Hughes\nWarrior Way Life Defense\n#lifedefense #vary #allenhughes.